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writes: My bf has been pretty depressed recently, mainly because he has no job but there are other issues too. Last night when we were together he started crying and said he didn't want to drag me down with him and that he couldn't put into the relationship what it deserves, and tried to break up with me.After a few hours of crying/arguing etc. i convinced him to stay at my house that night because I knew that if i didn't i'd never see him again. I told him that he was tired and depressed, things would look different in the morning and then if he still insists on breaking up with me then there's nothing more i can do. He agreed to stay, and after more talking and crying i seem to have said something that changed his mind about breaking up, and he started acting like my bf again, saying things like 'i'm not going anywhere/i'll keep you safe'. We shared a bed that night and he was being his usual self again, but i wasn't really sure what was going on as he hadn't made clear his feelings.I woke up the next morning not knowing how he will be with me, and he was really really sweet, and he kept saying I love you, and we fooled around too. What's going on? Should I ask him where we stand? I'm worried that bringing up the whole situation again will bring back his feelings as he seems to have put the whole ordeal behind him already.
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 By looks of it he was walking away from you because he didn't want to pull you down with his problems, your have reassured him that you are there and love him and don't want to lose him making him realise that he doesn't want to be without you and that you've made him see that he doesn't have to do all this alone he can do it with you.
I really feel that this was just a simple mistake on his part and realised that breaking up with you isn't what he wants to do and thats why he is acting fine and loving with you again.
Good luck :o)
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Hi dearie,
I think your bf is in need of support right now and he actually said the right phrase u were really "sweet". You were there for him and that's what is important in any relationship. I dont think u need to worry yourself or doubt his love for you but i need to advise u that they are tougher days ahead for you guys and u should try to be his pillar and strength right now because he needs u. It is important to stand by each other when we are in need and for that i really commend u.
Make sure u keep encouraging him in ways and let him know that it isnt easy to get a job. It is more difficult for alot of people. Jobs are highly competitive becos of the high unemployment rate and then u have a lot of people struggling for the few available ones. You can download stuff on the internet on preparation of cv and applcations, interview techniques and testing.
take care and goodluck.
kelly.
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