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writes:I am only 17 years old, I've dated a guy for only a month then we broke up. We kept talking for a while and he's always been honest to me, even when we broke up. Know were going to see each other and he ask me if i want to lose my virginity with him. Should i? Wer'e only going to see each other for like a month cuz i live far.
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reader, _xxx  +, writes (17 May 2009):
Well to be honest.. hes probably either just after one thing or he generally still cares about you.. No one can really tell you what to do in this situation as it is your choice no one elses. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Hey.
Sorry Hunny. But I don't think it's a great idea. You don't get along well enough with him to continue dating him... You're not very well suited. I think that you would probably regrat it.
Just give yourself time. Wait until you've found someone you really want to share yourself with. Inside and out. Emotionally and physically.
Good Luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): well there really isn't any answer for u, if you feel that he is worth it, then go for it.
No one else can tell u the right or wrong thing
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 This guy is your ex and you only dated him for a month.. what gives him the right to ask you to give up your virginity to him?? Sweetie, hold onto your virginity until the right man comes along...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Honestly in my opinion I think you should go with what you feel is right. It's not up to use to decided wether or not you lose it to him, it's up to you, but just remember..The person you lose your virginity to will be the person you remember forever so do you care for this guy enough to have him embeded in your memories until the day you die? I'm not saying you're going to regret doing it, I'm just saying to think this decision through. I've been with my baby for almost 2 months now and I'm still thinking this damn thing over!! lol. I wish you the best of luck in everything you do :)) bye byes
-TKM
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reader, happiness within +, writes (24 June 2008):
Please don't do it. You know you will meet someone who loves you and respects you- this guy clearly doesn't. He wants you to give away something precious and you are not even in a relationship with him. Sweetie honestly you are so much better than that.
Be strong and say no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): NO you shouldnt lose your virginty to him because you will regret it and will feel sorry 4 yourself.Being a virgin at your age is something that seperates you from most teens u may know.Wait until your sure about it because by you asking for advice about it your not sure yourself and thats fine...think it through:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Sweet Pea, if you do sleep with him, you will regret it for the rest of your life. He only wants you for one thing. A true gentleman will wait till you have a ring on you finger.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 I only have one thing really to say on this matter.
If you lose your virignity to this guy, you will regret it.
I have always felt that the whole "friends with benefits" idea is a bad one because it seems that one person in the mix will end up building feelings for the other and then be heart broken when the affair ends.
Find someone who respects you, not someone who clearly just wants you for sex.
You're worth more than that.
Take care xx
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 You've already broken up with him once, and when you see him again it will only be for a month. This really doesn't sound like something that is going to last - Do you really want to lose your virginity to a guy you'll only see a few times?
The fact that you are even asking tells me you are unsure, and if you are ever unsure, don't do it. I'd advise you to wait. There's no hurry to lose your virginity, and when you do, wouldn't you prefer it to be with a man who you are in a loving relationship with, rather than a teen fling?
You only lose your virginity once. Just because this guy wants to take yours doesn't mean you have to let him. But ultimately, it is your decision.
Good luck in whatever you choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): To put it quite simply, no. Save yourself for someone a bit more special. Someone you do have a relationship with, or someone you feel you really do love. You don't want to do anything you will end up regretting down the road. You have your whole lifetime to make this decision and you don't want to make it too hastily. You don't need to do anything right now. You can take years to finally take that step if you wanted. It doesn't really change anything. Frankly, if you're doubting whether or not it's the right thing to do, it's because it's not the right thing to do. Simple as that. Best of luck to you and stay smart!
-RJGirl
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reader, scrazy +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Come again?
There's nothing wrong with a guy being honest, but I have to question his motives for wanting to sleep with you even though you two are no longer together.
Personally, I wouldn't do it, but it's your decision to make. However, don't sleep with him if you don't want to. If it doesn't feel right, then you can tell him NO; none of this 'finish what i started' business.
Since you're going to see him anyway, spend some time talking and being with him - see how you feel about him before you make your decision.
But like I said, don't do it if you don't want to - and since you're asking "Should I?" I would say you should wait for someone else.
xo
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