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writes:Hiya.i am feeling very low at the moment.I'm 16 and my boyfriend is also 16. We spilt up on friday, because i often pick on little things and start arguing with him when he has done nothing wrong.He said he didn't want to be with me anymore cos have all the little things i do..and he has finished me before cos of this and took me back cos i said i'd change.We had been together 1 year and 1 month. But the thing is what is really confusing me is...he still wants to be friends and see me twice a week, usually i would see him three times a week.What can i do to try and change his mind? i saw him yesterday and he said we'd talk bout it on tuesday (tommarow), what should i say to him? Do you think i have a chance? I can't stop crying please help.
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reader, sugersweet02 +, writes (21 August 2006):
 look ill break it sown for you, it could be you hormaones and he shouold know that, hes just saing that because that proboly his excuss for breaking up with u
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (14 August 2006):
 Sorry, don't know WHAT happened there..oops!! :o)
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reader, snowbird +, writes (14 August 2006):
Aw, sweetie, don't cry!
At least he still cares for you..Are you sure he has done nothing wrong, or can you think of why you have picked on those little things he does?
Does he listen and take notice, or does he still keep doing it? - and if he does, is that what annoys you? If so, then nothing has been resolved, and he has to take some responsibility here!
You could just be picking on him because you are bored, or because you are annoyed with yourself about something.. 16 IS a very confusing age, as a teeny part of you is still a child, which the adult in you is taking over, so of course it is only natural for you to be in conflict with the world around you.
You are both learning about yourselves growing into adults, and all kinds of things are happening in your lives. School/college, friends, parents, all with their own demands. Believe me, I can remember how hard it was being sixteen with all those pressures.
You do have choices here..
1. You could just see him as a friend, as he has suggested, and take your time;
2. You could ask him to give you a bit of space to get your head together. If you feel you have been unreasonable, apologise, and tell him you are still an item, but you need to sort yourself out, even if it's just for a couple of weeks.
3. Try to concentrate on your friends and other aspects of your life. Throw yourself into something really absorbing which will take your mind off your boyfriend for a while. Miss him, and when you are ready, when you can really appreciate him and change for the better as a more tolerant person, then you will have matured successfully in that department!
4. Or, (as you may have come to the conclusion), you may well find you have out-grown one another, and even though it still hurts, you realise it is time to say goodbye,learn from the experience, and move on. There is plenty of time to go out with other boys, and have a ball before getting bogged down in a relationship which is not right for you. You will change, and so will your tastes in all sorts of things, as you mature, and this is the time of your life to get out there and experience all manner of things before settling down. So don't worry - this time next year, you will only be worrying about something/one else!! Have an exciting, varied and interesting life, be strong, and know what you really want. Enjoy, and take care.. ((HUGS))
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reader, snowbird +, writes (14 August 2006):
Aw, sweetie, don't cry!
At least he still cares for you..Are you sure he has done nothing wrong, or can you think of why you have picked on those little things he does?
Does he listen and take notice, or does he still keep doing it? - and if he does, is that what annoys you? If so, then nothing has been resolved, and he has to take some responsibility here!
You could just be picking on him because you are bored, or because you are annoyed with yourself about something.. 16 IS a very confusing age, as a teeny part of you is still a child, which the adult in you is taking over, so of course it is only natural for you to be in conflict with the world around you.
You are both learning about yourselves growing into adults, and all kinds of things are happening in your lives. School/college, friends, parents, all with their own demands. Believe me, I can remember how hard it was being sixteen with all those pressures.
You do have choices here..
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Try to concentrate on your friends and other aspects of your life. Throw yourself into something really absorbing which will take your mind off your boyfriend for a while. Miss him, and when you are ready, when you can really appreciate him and change for the better as a more tolerant person, then you will have matured successfully in that department!
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