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writes:ADVICE PLEASE? can someone tell me what you think, gf finished with me and for 6 weeks sent letters,emails,flowers but no reply as she said don't contact her when broke up. now for 2 weeks, weeks 7 and 8 have not contacted her, do you think she will ever contact me to see how i am or if she misses me,or do you think because she has been ignoring me and said don't contact her from break up, that she might have someone else and that's why said don't contact or won't ever contact. any advice would be good, anything what you think, good or bad. thanks.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (10 January 2008):
 "ADVICE PLEASE? can someone tell me what you think, gf finished with me and for 6 weeks sent letters, emails, flowers but no reply as she said don't contact her when broke up"
I don't think she could've put it more bluntly to be honest. I know it's tough but you have to accept the fact when she said NO CONTACT she meant it.
Obviously, you're not over the relationship and want her back. Perhaps you haven't had the closure needed to move on.
I've recently gone through a break up with my EX. It's been two months. Other than contacting her about a week and half after the split we've had ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT.
This is the only way to move on properly. You need to grieve for the loss of the relationship, and heal, before you can get over it.
"now for 2 weeks, weeks 7 and 8 have not contacted her, do you think she will ever contact me to see how i am or if she misses me"
Again, I think you're clutching at straws here. If she hasn't replied to you in 6 weeks despite all the gestures, what do you think is going to change in a further 2 weeks?
"do you think because she has been ignoring me and said don't contact her from break up, that she might have someone else and that's why said don't contact or won't ever contact"
Sounds to me like she's moving on. Whether she's got someone else or not is pretty much irrelevant. I can realte completely to your thoughts and feelings... This person obviously meant a lot to you and now she's no longer there you're missing her and curious about what she's doing/feeling. This is NORMAL. However, it really doesn't help.
Personally, I feel you need to move on.
I've been going through all sorts of experiences/emotions following the break up of my relationship and even sought out counselling.
Take a look at an article I wrote recently which I think you can probably relate to. It shows what I've been doing and how I've been coping with the loss of the relationship with my EX. I find it's been working for me and I've been making great progress. It might work for you as well?
Here it is:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
BE STRONG AND MOVE ON. Best of luck and let us know how you get on :)
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reader, majray1 +, writes (10 January 2008):
majray1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice,moving on, just a shame thought she might just call to see were how i was after 6 years together everyday. i knew had to move on,just hard, and everyone's advice just confirms it,which i all ready really knew in side.thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): If she said "No contact" I think she meant no contact and you can send her all the letters/flowers/emails in the world but if she doesn't want you any more then there's nothing you can do I'm afraid!
My ex was the same when we broke up! I ended up moving away because of that, changing jobs, phone numbers everything as he didn't get the hint that we were finished!
I think you just have to accept that she doesn't want you any more and just move on with your life. Best of luck with everything anyway :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I think she made it quite clear she didn't want any contact at all - either way.
Time to move onwards and upwards, I'd say.
Phil
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Can you confirmed she is still living at that same address? She may have disappeared totally from your life. You need to check if she is still there.
I don't think she will contact you .Forget her and go on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): parhaps its an unusal case of being true to your words.
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