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writes:hello people, i broke off with this girl 3 months ago because it had no future...she loved me from her true heart and cribbed and cried over me for many weeks ...she couldnt believe that i was gone and we went back and forth ....my mental illness took over me and i was very panicky at that time and wanted to minimise the contact as much as possible(even her friendship used to smother me as i still felt she is close to me) ...so i did everything possible to stay away but at the same time also motivated and supported her to move on ...her closure and contacts used to smother me and i maintained distance and gave fake excuses of being busy..*we decided to become friends*now by god's mercy she has moved on finally which seemed nearly impossible at that time , i have started feeling lonely in life ...it seems she doesnt bother about me anymore ...she has become too formal in her talks and seems to have lost that closure with me ...she doesnt call and texts only sometimes(she used to die for my calls and looked for every opportunity to talk to me) ..this really is so painful when i think about the past....i know i dont have any right to talk now and i should let her go but i become panicy when i think about it and i dont want to lose her as a friend atleast...everytime i call her or contact her and this really hurts my own dignity...she hardly bothers even though she is still being nice to me ...i am very weak at heart and cant bear this kind of situation and i feel very panicky and dont knw what to do..!! she is nice but she doesnt care anymore and has become neutral ...we meet once in a month ...should i maintain contact with her? it kills my self respect thoughshe is a genuine girl and a true sweetheart ...i am ready to let everything go..i just want that she should have gratitude for me whenever she remembers me in her life and shouldnt think bad about me ....she should understand me and have respect for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): I understand how you feel but the thing is you encouraged her to move on and that's what she did. People get tired sometimes and even if they love you so much..it dawned on them that it was a hopeless case. So they surrendered and moved on.
Based on your story, I believe she still likes you as a person but life has to move on for her. Just be happy for her and be contented that atleast you are still friends with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): can you really blame her for not wnating to talk to her you dumped her and broke her heart shes finally got over it maybe it jsut hurts to much to be near you i went through a similar situation and when my ex broke up with me it took me weeks to get over him and now he wants to be friends i cant do that knowing what we used to have im showing you the girls point of view here maybe you simply hurt her to much jsut be happy for her and be there when she need you laugh along
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