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writes:I don't know what to do and I'm really confused about the situation - maybe someone can help cause I can't see the wood through the trees for this.Me and my boyfriend split up about 3-4 weeks ago and he said that he didnt feel anythng for me anymore so with time i've learned to let go, but he accepts lifts home and nights out with me, surely he would keep a safe distance - we're even planning to go away for a weekend to see one of my friends (but we're going as friends) - last night he turned to me, held up his mobile and said I'll speak to you tomorrow yeah.I dont get it, if he wants to keep me as a friend he would say speak to you whenever - or is it something else?PLEASE HELP XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers but I'm not sure what to do. Part of me wants to fight for him cause he is really worth it but the other wants to walk away cause it just hurts too much.I've told him how I feel and he said that too much has been said but when we first broke up he didnt want to give the a scond chance like I gave him when he cheated on me.what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): He just wants to stay friends. He likes you, is comfortable with you and enjoys time with you, but that doesn't mean he's romantically in love with you. He probably thinks you're ok with being only friends since you've gone along with it by still seeing him under these circumstances. When he finds another girlfriend I guarantee he'll be spending little to no time with you then. My advice would be to make plans that don't include him. You're hurting yourself by continuing to see him like this, and as long as he's around, it will be harder for you to break away emotionally enough to find someone else.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (10 December 2008):
 Hi,
Sometimes even when you know you should let go, you cant. We dont know what he is thinking, it could be that he still has feelings, or it could also be him just wanting to stay mates. What I would say is that I dont think its very healthy for you to keep asking him out. Basically he is keeping you hanging on a string, and you are encouraging it.
Maybe it would be best if you asked him out-right what his intentions are. Because you dont want to live in limbo do you?
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reader, Loz_7 +, writes (10 December 2008):
 I think that your ex does see you as a friend now, as you two did break up. However I feel he may be a bit too use to routine with you. So his natural reaction is to be the way he is being with you, he is not meaning to send you mixed signals. Also to be honest I feel you are not helping yourself move on by arranging weekends away and nights out even if they are as friends. Holding on to hope may hurt you more in the long run. This is just my advice and it's up to you how you deal with this. Hope this helps! Good Luck!
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