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writes:I know I really should have learned my lesson by now, but I've been involved in a really strange off and on relationship for almost two years now. I want this to end badly. I'm a really laid back girl. I don't like to argue, no trust issues, I'm reasonable and rarely get angry. This guy is for a lack of better words just plain crazy. I'm lead to believe he's bipolar based on his actions and some medication he had laying around at one point...though I never questioned it. We've had maybe half a dozen periods over this time where things were really good for about a month, then he either disappears or texts me saying he's back with his ex. They seem to have a very volatile relationship. She's stalked me, threatened me, and blown up my voicemail with all sorts of drunk ramblings. All of his friends tell me how crazy she is and how glad they are to have me around. But still, it always ends the same and he goes back to her. I swear every time this happens that I am done with him...but I always get that phone call saying how much he misses me and our friendship then next thing you know it's back on. I finally stood up for myself last week and said everything I should have said from the beginning. Told him he was never to contact me again. Then a few days later I get a text from him asking if I was still mad. I said I wasn't mad...just done with him. Then the insults came flooding in from him. I do have strong feelings for him, but I know this can never be good. I've tried everything I can think of to end this and I'm at my wits end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ladies! I know that the best thing to do is to just walk away and not look back. He makes it hard when he starts texting me saying that he really needs a friend and someone to talk to....I feel insensitive for ignoring him. And he won't stop until I acknowledge him. I don't know. Maybe I'm just easily manipulated. And after all this craziness I still find myself wishing to hear from him....it's ridiculous.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (12 December 2009):
Hes obviously still got a weakness for his ex girlfriend and it sounds he might always choose her over you. You told him you were done with him and he started insulting you when he sound have been trying to get you back with romantic gestures i think. Just finish with him, you sound like a person with a nice temperment and laid back so should be able to get a new guy easy. Not all men are crazy with crazy exs. Find someone new that will help you get over him.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
You need to get out more. Start dating someone else just for friendship and to also show yourself that you can do better. Start with online dating or something where you can start chatting to other guys. Confide I. Your friends. I remember I used to be in a tight group of friends who used to be like jail guards after a break up; literally pinning you down when you wanted to call the loser. Its never easy but once you make a decision, just work through it and only time can heal you.
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