A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Should I cut off all all contact with my ex or is it worth keeping open lines of communication?We were together for 5 years. We lived together and owned a home. We were best friends and were making plans for marrige. I came home from work one day and she said she wanted to be on her own and was unwilling to consider any alternatives. I would have given everything I had to keep us together (changed jobs, moved, anything).I have since then come to believe that she had an emotional affair, though not a physical one. She is still in contact with that person.We have seen each other a few times (minimally, at my request) and every time the emotional connection has been unmistakable. We both admitted to each other that the connection is still incredibly strong. We've cried together and held hands (though nothing more).She is considering moving to another state and I suggested that would mean that we might never again speak to each other. She reacted that she did not want that at all, but is still unwilling to reconsider our relationship.I would love to try again but for now, at least, that's not an option. The question is this, should I say a final good bye to my greatest love or offer her a more indeterminate ending, one which leaves doors open?Thanks
View related questions:
affair, best friend, broke up, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, countrculture +, writes (1 April 2007):
My advice would be to start packing up your emotions and move on. From the sound of things it appears she's ready to do the same and I would feel terrible to hear of someone chasing someone who is constantly trying to outrun them. However, I'm also a glass-half-full guy and part of me wants to say something good is always worth fighting for. Give it your best, but be ready for the eventual shootdown and be ready to move on. You'll feel better once that sinks in and you can move on with your life.
|
