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writes:My ex and I were only together for two months. As stupid as it sounds, it was kind of like The Notebook romance. Short, but very very sweet...maybe so sweet in fact that I will forever have a cavity from it. I felt with him things I have not felt with anyone else. But it was not just me. We both really cared about each other and enjoyed the others company and it was very notable. When were were out in public and strangers would approach us and tell us how good we were together. For us, the way we treated and interacted with each other was just very natural and easy. It ended, kind of how they ended in the Notebook...just something stupid and fast and I was very upset with him for breaking up with me and couldn't believe it was over. The problem is that this break up was six months ago and I am STILL not over it. I am not sure why! I have been caught up in things with people for way longer than we were together, but recovered from those things in no time. I am not sure why I just cannot seem to move forward. I move out of this city in a few weeks and so we won't be in the same town. Not that I ever see him. I want to say maybe that'll do it...but I am not convinced. Any theories on why I am not really moving on and tips on how to?
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reader, Diera +, writes (4 April 2013):
I think you are not moving on because you are still hanging onto this romantic fantasy.
You just have to try distract yourself with other things and go out and meet new people.
Time does heal everything
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reader, Here2HelpU  +, writes (4 April 2013):
Firstly it seems like your putting loads of pressure on yourself, just try and relax and keep yourself busy an your mind active. Obviously I can tell you really liked this boy.
Time is key here. You just need more time. Some people can get over their broken relationship in a couple of months, some are different in which it takes a couple of years. If it was a short relationship then it wont take a dramatic amount of time. I'd say round about 12 months and you could start to feel better.
Just keep yourself active and try and not dwell on this past relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2013): To sageoldguy...in the notebook, they actually met and established their love in one summer...two months. Then yes, they met later and rekindled the fire. But I think the author of this question was saying that her love sparked in a short time, like in the movie.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 April 2013):
 TWo months does not constitute a "romance"....it's, maybe, an "infatuation"...... AND,
"The Notebook" (one of my fave movies) is about a romance/love/family that endured for MANY, MANY years (decades!)........
Now... how to get over this guy???? I suggest you rent copies of the movies "The Notebook" and "ET" .. and watch them, alternately, until this guy is totally erased from your memory....
Good luck....
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