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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend broke up about 6 months ago now and I still can't get over her. She broke up with me and got with one of her friends a month after which broke my heart even more. She kept contacting me and confusing me before this happened, and I told her that in order to stay friends I needed time and space and no contact. She has contacted me since and said she's gutted that were not in contact anymore and doesn't know how I'm doing. I replyed but didn't say anything other then I was good and hope things with her were good. I just know I'm still not over her-i don't want her back, I know we are not meant for each other and she changed personality quite a lot in the run up to breaking up with me. I just don't know what I would do if I bumped into her and this is what scares me. Also if she texts me or gets in touch again I don't know what to say to her or how I feel. I feel like I've been so strong and have moved on enough, but its been 6 months and I'm still thinking about her and her 2 kids and just want to move on fully or be able to talk to her again as friends because we went through so much. Just want some advice as what you guys think I should do? Or should I help the process by going back on the dating scene? Thanks.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 Hi,
When you feel deeply for someone, it is hard to get over them. I have known people that it took years to get over a love.
But what I can say ...from observing people and from my own experience....right after you break up....it is not a good idea to remain friends right at that moment...thing is....you need that total time apart to "get over" her and have a sort of detox of that relationship in order to move on eventually. The chatting and emailing and texting does not assist you in this process.
You asked if it was a good idea to head back on the dating scene....why not? You don't want her in your life again in a romantic sense and you see it did not take her long to hook up with someone....so get your but out there fabulous person and find that special someone!!
Best Wishes
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