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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now. I'm 20 and he's 26. I lost my virginity to him earlier on during the relationship and regret doing so, but I did. Now, we can't seem to stop arguing and "calling it quits" over petty things. Last week, we "broke up" over the tone I talked to him one day that I was for cranky. I initiated the conversation that we work at this and stay together. A couple of days ago, he began to try to make me jealous by telling me about another girl that is interested in him, and I went along with the act. I mentioned a guy (an imaginary guy) that is interseted in me, and from there he said "Oh, ok, you can be with him then! We're over!". And just like that we apparently broke up because we haven't seen or talked to each other since. It's been about 2 days, so maybe he'll come around and chalk it up as him having been mad, but what if he doesn't? Should I call and try to make him stay with me? You have to understand that I lost my virginity to this man, and he really is my first love. I don't want our relationship to end, but for some reason it seems as though he does. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): You're just so young. In 5 yrs. from now you'll look back and be giving advise about the same thing to someone elese. Think of what you're going through as a learning experience. Stop having sex with him and give yourself to the man you plan on marrying. I bet you won't feel the way you do now if you wait. It's not too late.
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reader, x_litto_miss_ferguson_x +, writes (9 November 2005):
I went through the exact same thing and i mean exact same thing...wow! its such a small world, look hunni give him a calla and tell him u have really strong feekings for him and dont want them to end u want to stay with him but u cant go on arguing for ever, explain you made it up! you should be happy hes telling you about the other women me and my boyfriend are now so in love and have been together for over a year we still hav petty arguments at times although thats what couples do! it means u have to work hard to make it work !
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2005): Your an adult but don't have the mind of one fighting like I would fight with my boyfriend and I am age 11. Now listen.. If that man of 26 is still acting age 11 go find yourself a better man a first love is a first experience and my advice to you is top have quite a few loves before getting married and get to know the man for atleast 3 years before marrying! Knowing a guy all your life is especially good.. Off topic.. oops. lol . But still don't play childish games your an adult get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2005): It seems to me that the petty issues which you argue over are a cover for the general angry and frustration you both feel for one another.
You say that you regret losing your viginity to this man, doesn't this tell you something about your relationship? I seriously feel that a clean break is what you both need.
I understand that this man was your first love I really do, i've been there i let a man mentally torture me because he was my first love. Trust me, first loves are very rarely true loves. Please take a chance, break free, there is a real love waiting out there go out and find him.
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