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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and tonight we came to an agreement that this just isn't exciting anymore. We've had discussions so many times before about whether we shoudl stay together and we usually do, but this time we both know we're not completely happy. I'm scared, tomorrow we're gonna have a proper chat about what we think we should do but I know this is leaning towards the end. I don't want to lose him in my life, 4 yrs is such a long time to just throw away, and we both still love eachother, we're just bored. Is there anyway we can save this? I can't stand the thought of us not being together. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 Well, if you guys are just bored then you need to start making this relationship exciting! The best way to do that is to just do stuff. Make memories. Go to anything, everything! Find local free music, a play, try new restaurants, find free museums and go together. The only people who can liven this relationship up are you. Maybe some new activities in your lives will help invent some new activities in the bedroom?
But if you're just unhappy together, be at peace with that and let this go. There is no use dragging out something that just isn't there anymore. Really think about whether or not you want to stay in this relationship. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): Hey you,
I have been going through a similar situation in my mid twenty crisis. There is love but there is no electricity in the relationship. We feel the drudgery of the day and the monotony of the feelings! And we decided to take a vacation and I go alone to Singopore or the US for a fortnight's tour. Both to explore and to make me miss him. Though it is yet to happen we would do it sometime soon.
I can only suggest you take a nice break from each other for a week or a month or whatever suits best and see if the spark comes back or not. True love stays put. No change will shake its foundations.
All the best!
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