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writes:Ok, I'm sure that this message sounds way to obvious however its been consuming my thoughts for the last week.I'm a 21 closeted gay dude btw.I work in a supermarket, most of the staff go for a few drinks after work on a Saturday night so it was nothing new for us to have a few beers in each others company; anyway this one guy who stated working with us recently, is great fun to be around. I have suspected that he was gay or bi because like me he never engaged in any conversations' about the hot women in the shop. It was a quiet night in the bar so a group of us went to a house party including said guy. It was good fun for a couple of hours but most of them got wasted and fell asleep.I hadn't drank much and was enjoying watching everyone act stupid. Like wise that guy hadn't drank much either and decided he wanted to sleep and found a spare bed. Shortly after this I wanted to sleep as well and couldn't find an empty bed so I innocently got into the bed with the guy, I thought he wouldn't care because he didn't know I was gay and I assumed he was fast asleep. Anyway after a couple of minutes I was just falling asleep I could feel movement coming from him, I could see the blankets moving around his groin, was he aroused by having me in the bed? I began to get aroused at the thought of this and turned around so my front was facing his back. I didn't want him to get the wrong idea so I pulled back but he kept moving back very slowly, eventually our bodies touched, which was HOT! But we were both still keeping up the pretence of being asleep, this went on for a while I don't think either of us slept for the rest of the night occasionally "sleep touching" each other, the next morning I had to get up for work, he didn't and stayed in bed.I'm now very confused by the situation should I bring it up in conversation or would that be to awkward? I would love for this to be more than just that! All advice greatly appreciated! Thanks for reading.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (2 September 2014):
 Ask him only for a drink next time and see where things progress.
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reader, Behavioural Analysis +, writes (1 September 2014):
 Unless he started touching your groin with his hand or bottom and started rubbing, there's still a chance he was asleep and it was genuinely just moving whilst asleep.
Start building up enough of a relationship to ask, if it goes that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): Honestly, I would not bring up that exact subject in conversation. But if it is bothering you that much, just bring up the subject of the party and talk about other things that happened at the party etc. If that goes well, maybe it will lead into conversation about the sleeping arrangements and if not, just make a comment about crashing at the end of the night and see where it goes. In other words, just skate around the question instead of being direct and asking about it. Feel out the situation and see how things are. You will feel what will be okay to say.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (1 September 2014):
I would advise you not to bring it up in conversation at all. Just act like nothing happened, and perhaps say hello to him and engage in small talk sometimes. You need to be absolutely 100% sure that he feels the same as it could be awkward if he didnt. Im sorry I cant advise you better but this sounds like the best idea to me, for now. Good luck :)
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