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writes:thanks for reading! I have meet this really amazing Girl on the internet and she seems to be very shy.We have had some great conversations on the phone for hours at a time and when we talk its natural and nothing is forced and there isnt any odd moments really.We have webcamed on a few occasions and she still is really shy.Havent spoke with a girl like this in a really long time.Last time I have had intrest in a girl like this was when i dated a girl for a really long time.The problem is that we keep making plans to meet and she keeps bailing out.She seems really intrested in me as well but i getting mixed feeling about this because i dont know if she is playing games or she is generaly shy.How long should i put up with the constant bail outs from her?Now i do want to mention that she is the one that keeps wanting to meet up.Its only been about a week that we have been talking am i being to ancy to meet with her and should i make my avaliablity less open so i can get a chance to meet with her.I dont want to ignore her because i feel she might perhaps lose intrest.What can i do to make this date really happen so i can atleast get my foot in the door?We talk about meeting up and its like "yes is this going to happen"then no phone call and a random text and when i do talk to her its always some other excuse.Any help would be "GREATLY appreciated " because this girl does have everything that iam Looking for. thanks
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reader, lucky 5 +, writes (18 August 2009):
she is married and she is only playing the game with you do not be a toy ,ask her no more .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Has she been in a situation of Domestic Violence. A few men are scornful when their partner leaves a relationship and it is not safe anymore.And of no fault of their own, they could have been controlled, stoodover. She may be getting to know you in ways which keeps her safe, without giving out too much information of where she lives etc... and avoiding this, or wanting a relationship, then the memory triggers a withdrawal. If you've just met her, this may be too much information to give out. Unless some-one has been in this situation, she may feel, another may think she was partly to blame too. Perhaps you could meet at a venue where she feels safe and to avoid asking her too many questions, allowing her to come out of her shell slowly. This however may not be the case, but it's one thought
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 August 2009):
Have you asked her why she's scared of meeting you?
Tell her that you REALLY want to meet her but you don't want to keep getting your hopes up and getting hurt when she changes her mind.
Be honest, don't play games, just tell her you are getting hurt by her being scared of meeting you.
Arrange a time and a place to meet rather than saying you'll arrange it on the day, and if she stands you up then accept it won't happen and stop talking to her.
Good Luck!! xx
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