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writes:I have been dating this guy for 4 years now and im very much in love with him. He is 18 and im 21. He lives in a different country and comes every once a year for 3 months. Thats the only time i get to spend with him. When we meet its just amazing cos we laugh, we do crazy stuff, the sex is great but when i talk to him over the phone its as if we are 2 different people. He seems so bored and i too keep quiet. The problem with me is that i cannot be funny and casual. I always try to talk to him about serious stuff which i dont think he likes all the time. WHat should i do to make our conversations fun and how can i make him want me more? Also a personal question is: if we have sex while on my periods and he cums inside, is it risky? please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much for ur help i feel much more better by reading ur comments thank u very much i think im gonna start applying all these things in my life very soon thanx agen
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Hi Ms anonymous,
You are being very silly if you have sex with this guy without a condom. You only see him once a year, you don't know who is has sex with or where he has been. Yes of course you can pregnant on a period, but even worse you can catch a sexual disease from your boyfriend. He could give you AIDS and then you will die. Please, please use a condom each and every time you have sex. Sexual diseases are no fun, why take the risk of dying through sex.
Your relationship dosen't sound very fun. Your frightened of this guy. You don't know what to say to him, you allow him to swear at you, you chase him and phone him, but he dosen't show you respect. This can't go on. You are being treated badly because he knows you love him. You must learn to respect yourself, you must learn to put you first. He is only some guy, he's not that important, you could dump him any day, or he could dump you. Learn to have more pride and respect for yourself. Learn to create barriers and walls arround your heart. Force yourself not to call him so often, force yourself to hangup the phone if he is rude. If he loves you, he will learn to respect you, and he will run after and stop being so rude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey jodie thanx for ur response. When hes here i talk to him everyday for an hour atleast. Theres 1 more problem. I think im too available for him. If we have a fight and keep swears at me and hangs up on me i run behind him to forgive me for something i havent even done. I call him all the time he doesnt call me. I am so insecure about him but it seems like he doesnt care if im in his life or not. I want to become more self confident and attain an attitude so that he realises im not a piece of crap . Please tell me how can i do this cos im an emotional fool and extremely sensitive and its very hard for me to even say "get lost" to anyone. Please help before i drown in my own low self esteem.
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reader, Jodiesmith  +, writes (22 September 2008):
hey babes two words - Phone Sex ... ha have you ever tried it, or just tease him (Ive just got out the shower, and am lying on my bed...)
also just relax tell him funny things that have happened to you - think of it as a chance to get to know each other better - also asked open questions like - what have you been up to today - then ask questions and relate personal stories to his reply!!
how often do you talk on the phone??
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