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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi i am 22 years of age and my partner is 34. I have been dating him for 3 years now. I moved in with him about a year ago and just lately we have been arguing alot. Mainly about things that he has done or said. It all started with his over exagerated porn collection and the more i delve into things the more i find. Every time we argue he say's i am being pathetic and i need to grow up. he looks at woman all the time in public and say's to me that he dosen't realise he is doing it and sometimes he is comparing me. It is little comments like that and not to get any fatter etc. I am at my wits end. I am a very confident, outspoken person but in an argument he twists things on me. Please help me and advise me what to do. I am becomming insecure with our relationship. I love him but i cannot talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2007): The truth is NOT ALL GUYS LOOK AT PORN...those with at least one ounce of respect for their partners dont anyway....The fact that many guys have no conscience and do use porn DOESNT MAKE IT RIGHT....
DEMAND WHAT YOU DESERVE...RESPECT AND IF HE CANT OR WONT GIVE IT TO YOU FIND ANOTHER MAN WHO WILL
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reader, Keria +, writes (26 April 2007):
This kind of question seems to be on here a lot. The truth of the matter is that all men look at porn, and all straight men look at women. The frustration comes when we try to change them. We won't ever. Who was it who said, Lord give me the courage to change the things I can, the strenth to accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference"? This is one of those things that won't be changed, and if you had another man, he would also be looking at women. He might not do it when you are around, but he's still going to do it anyway, so what difference does it make?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Guys looking at porn or checking out girls isn't a big deal, most guys do it, he probably doesn't realize he's checking girls out in public. It comes as a force of habbit to alot of guys.
But if he's telling you not to get any fatter that's just him being an asshole, no guy should treat his girlfriend that way. If he treats you badly all the time I'd consider leaving and finding a guy that actually appreciates you, but thats just my opinion.
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