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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, Everyone here, I think I am the loser of relationship.I with my bf just know each other 3 month, but we argue like a every 4 day , I feel bored about this relationship. The reason we argue, is more like about the communication talk. He is a business men, busy on business, service, sales, (43 year old), I am (34 Year Old)He is my BF, also is my one of my director, our company is a shared director companyWe start relationship after I join company 1 month, he have not marry before, single. But i am divorce before without kids, I told him honestly. I don’t want him go deep with me, after I tell is it late.But currently we are arguing few things. I don’t know is it kidding or what?He gets approval from my parent want me to stay with him and take care of me, he promise me, everywhere he go , he with go with me, will not leave me. He promise, marry, everything.He gave me every month MYR1000.00 for use.He gave me Credit card for me to fill petrol. Lunch he pay, dinner he pay. But now he always told me he is over use, over budget using money, but now I am thinking he promise want to give all of this, is he want do it. I never force him. For me , I realize , he is a drinker, every night drink, is a money, smoker, also is a money to buy a cigarette .this all are money.But now he complain complain. I am angry.Some more say he is not freedom, but do I?I cannot go out with friend, I cannot keep update my study; I cannot go learn swim with the instructor is male; I cannot chat with friend, sms also.If I do this, he angry, say I don’t love him. I am burning and explain to him a lot, I am not like this.But he say if I do this. He will no happy. But he can go out with friend, he say is business.But now I feel his difference, he complains, even asked kiss also need money, and do he crazy? Oh.. No…, because I take his money, and I use his money?But I think I were wrong also, because few time argue, I just go out at midnight, and come back 2 am. I go out turning here and there, or drink.Now I still stay his house, but I don’t know I should move out or not, But I love him, I don’t want to stop with him, but he also don’t want leave me. But the thing is asked for kiss needs pay?He say he will not leave me, unless I chose to leave him.I feel he no love me anymore, now we talk and even I want to kiss him , he also say , got money ? no money no kiss. I am pressure.Should I move out from his house? To stay outside. But he never asked me leave his houseShould I? Do I do wrong, for each time argue, I go out in midnight?Do he kidding me or kiss for money?? ConfuseShould I angry about this issue? The way he does, is forcing me go or what meaning?Normally if the guy don’t love girl, he will keep have sex with the girl? If I reject the sex, he asked me why, and he asked sex again.Sometime he say he take care of me, sometime he say if I have another men, I can go,Sometime he says he want to buy house, sometime he say he have no money.He promises marry next year, now he say, no money how to marry?What can I do , how to communicate with him? And since I still love him.Please advice!Thanks all
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 The best thing for you to do is to leave him, he treated you well to begin with as that was his way off getting you to fall in love with him, now he is showing you who he really is. He is using you for money and sex and he is controlling and possessive and if you stay with this man then you are only going to become isolated from life and feel miserable. I know you love him at the moment, but in time you will get over him and realise your life is so much better without him and you can do so much better for yourself.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (21 November 2012):
Were you with him for his money? And was he trying to win you over using money and now that he has you he doesnt pay for you the things he used to anymore? Why is money the number one issue in this relationship? Are you capable of being independent; ie can you love him but not use his resources? That would make the situation less complicated.
If it doesnt work out you can leave him,youve only been together for 3months after all and heavy fighting already isnt a good sign.
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