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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im in a relationship with this guy I absolutely love. He is amazing but sometimes our relationship is just full of arguments and im not even sure why they all start.We both love each other so much but its beginning to look like it can come to an end if things dont lighten up between us but the thing is im scared of breaking up.Id never had a boyfriend before (only meaningless dates and sex and stuff like that because ive always been to scared to get attached) but this guy was different and we've been together almost 3 year now.I dont want to lose him ever but i can see him losing patience sometimes and im scared of breaking up, I dont know how to handle it because i really sense it coming but its like without him id be so lost and i know id cry for days on end...its like id be so pathetic as to beg just for him to not leave me because im scared.
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reader, shabby-chic +, writes (29 March 2011):
 Hi, first things first, as much as being in a relationship can be wonderful, you need to maintain some independence. Realise that you are a wonderful person whom he should consider himself lucky to be with rather than feeling lost without him. You could address this by pursuing your personal hobbies that make you feel good about yourself, or spending time with other loved ones like family and friends. Spending some time to do this, will help you to refocus and bring some positive energy into the relationship. Sometimes when you spend too much time together, it can be fatal. Secondly, as it is your first relationship, you are bound to have this attachment to him in the fear that you cant cope on your own. But be careful as that may push him further away. So you just have to learn to let go of those insecurities and allow your love to grow.Remember, nothing compares to self-worth. Recognise your inner beauty, channel your energy into your goals then this positivity will have an impact on your relationship. Regards,
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