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writes: I'm in love with this guy.He has been my boyfriend for 3 years and I want to spend my life with him.But I just dont have feelings for him like I used to.I think he likes me a little more than I like him.I also like other guys and want to get with them but at the same time I still want to stay with my boyfriend.He is never completely honest with me as I am not to him and we keep a lot of stuff from each other.We fight almost every time we talk but we always get back together.He has told me he wants to get married but I don't know if he is the right one for me.Is it time to end our relationship?Please help!
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reader, Kierra48 +, writes (2 January 2007):
Kierra48 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): Please help? You ask. Why do you need to ask you have listed enough things against this relationship to have anyone running. Just get rid and find someone else. You are hanging onto a comfort zone, so you think, when you peel back the covers it isn't comfortable at all, so move on. Surely you don't need us aunts to tell you thank
Happy New Year and Take Care
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Arguing, keeping secrets, and 'wanting' other guys is not love, and if you feel like this he certainly ISN'T the 'right one' for you. It sounds like you have placed an expectation on yourself and this relationship that you need to give up on. Marrying someone with a pre-marriage relationship like this is going to be nothing but torture. Marriage doesn't fix your problems, it only magnifies the ones you already have. I would recommend that you either take some time off from each other, and really think about your motives for staying in this relationship, or end it, date, and find the one that is really right for you. This guy isn't it if you feel this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): I think its time to move on becuase if ur not honest and u like other people u should break up now before u hurt him or try to get help becuase if u hit every time u talk in the future he could get really mad and hurt you
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 January 2007):
 So, you can't talk without it ending in a fight.
You can't trust each other.
You keep secrets from each other.
You want to get with other guys.
And, the icing on the cake... you don't have feelings for him like you used to.
And you STILL think he's the one you're going to marry? Clearly any marriage between you would only prolong the suffering "til death do you part". Do you really want to be with this guy for the REST of your LIFE? Until you DIE? Do you want to have old, wrinkly, denture-filled sex with him when you're 80 years old?
I think it's time for both of you to go out and explore some new options. Maybe if it doesn't end up working out with anyone else and after some time apart you realize that you both need and love each other - then you can get back together and get married. But for now, it doesn't sound like this is a very constructive relationship for either of you.
Enjoy the single life for awhile, sweetness.
xxIndia
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