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writes:A friend of mine who is also a girl and I are EXTREMELY close because of some really emotional things that we have gone through together. we are also both very touchy-feely type people so this combination leads to us being veeerrryyy snuggly :) But lately the way that she has been touching me is causing other people to wonder and make comments about us. What I mean is, let's say I'm sitting with her in class--she used to always greet me with a hug but now she might have her arm around me for the entire class period, or will stroke/rub my upper back/shoulders for awkwardly long amounts of time. I generally don't care what people think of me and I completely have no problem with gays--I sort of consider myself bi; more "flexible" but anyways if they think I am gay that's fine with me--the thing is I know this is making other people feel uncomfortable and I don't like that. If it's just her and me, it feels really good lol, we've discussed this in-depth and we're clear that we're not sexually attracted to each other, just very close, and very tactile, and it's kind of the way we communicate how much we love each other--words can't do it justice. So the cuddling/touching isn't the problem. It's just, knowing other people are uncomfortable and confused makes ME feel uncomfortable with the situation! I don't know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): I know the problem... but don't be too afraid, although at school it's indeed not advised to be too close (my school even had rules about that ^^; ). Otherwise, you should be open about getting questions about it, so that people will feel okay asking about you and your friend, and you can be alright with answering truthfully ^-^
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 May 2012):
 Where's the problem, just stop being so touchy -feely , and keep the displays of affection within more reasonable limits, it's not like you have signed a contract that you must be all over each other all the time.
This , regardless of the gay or bisexual twist of your story, or of people's assumptions. simply, constant , excessive use of PDA , particularly in class , is always out of order and inappropriate . You are at school to learn, not to " feel good " tactily.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (11 May 2012):
 You could talk to her about not being so full on in front of people that you think are made uncomfortable by it?
Or talk to those people and explain the situation to them as well as can be done?
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