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writes:Hi there . Here's my little dilemma : I have a friend , she;s a colleague , we study at the same college . Short story , first we didn't speak to much , after one night when we studied together we talked every night for the next couple weeks (the past weeks) . After that she invited me to the theater , I invited her to the see a movie , then we went out to grab a pizza she invited me to her party etc and we spent more time then ever at college.She showed more affection then usual things like head on my shoulder *at the theater* , when she invited me to her party we were kinda close the hole time, and things like hand on her leg she didn't mind etc . Anyway I slept at her place for about 4 times (during the events I described earlier) , last night wast the 4'th. My dilemma is that last night was a really strange night , we didn't talk too much , it was to ... boring . I felt so weird that I wanted to leave , but I decided not to . Maybe we where tired (I organized an charitable event in witch she participated as well) I do not really no . The fact is that we are nothing more but just friends , or at least that's how we began. I'm starting to have some feelings for here and I want to now if u see a future in this story or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 no not at all. Some girls prefer to share all about their past with a new love interest. REally the only way you will find out is to try!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs the fact that she told me stories with her ex'es a sign of just friends ?
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reader, bluecow +, writes (19 December 2011):
wow, perhaps the weirdness is that she has been giving you all the signs but you havent made a move. I'm guessing the sexual tension could have been cut with a knife. She has invited you to her place 4 times, she lets you into her personal space (hands on thigh), she gets into your personal space (head on shoulder).... and yet noone has made the move. I know there are no rules that you have to make the first move, but the way I see it she already has. She invited you to stay... AGAIN!
Why dont you invite her out somewhere just the two of you next time, then go for a long walk in the park. This time of year its perfect to get close to someone as the weather is so cold. A walk in the park will mean she is cold, you can offer her your jacket and give her a hug to warm her up.
Thats the time to gauge her interest, tell her you would like to kiss her, and see how she responds. IF she is interested you will kiss, if not, then you know your going to be just friends.
The only way you will know if there is a future is to try for it. Hanging back all this time is going to get you nowhere fast.
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