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writes:My g/f, who lives in france, came to visit me in the UK for the week (last week). We had a wonderful time together but since she has gone, I have hit something of a depression.Our recent history is that, with her encouragement, I moved back to the UK from France to take a superb job. We never really had any serious plans to move-in together any time soon, so it seemed like a reasonable move.For the first 3 months, it has been great, we speak to each other twice a day and travel to see each other whenever we can.Now however, I am finding that I am missing her terribly. Since monday, I have had less interest in my work and have this strong need to hear from her constantly. I have been fighting the urge to call her every five minutes!What do I do? I want it to be how it was a couple of weeks ago when I was happy with the situation and loved talking to her when we did and didnt feel the cosntant need to hear her voice or smell her hair!It's driving me nuts. Reply to this Question
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reader, R71 +, writes (3 May 2007):
R71 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd she is a star... rather than going out to lunch with her colleagues, she stayed in the office and called me. Now, that's how to make a bloke feel like he's not fighting an uphill battle.
How little faith I have!
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reader, R71 +, writes (3 May 2007):
R71 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies.
Today she starts back at work as she was absent due to sickness for a couple of months. I've gotten very used to her not going to work but today I'm perturbed.
I know that she gets a lot of attention from other men (she's a looker) and I am having pangs of jealousy.
I think I made a mistake though, I called her this morning at the office to 'welcome her back' and she wasnt very receptive. Backing off is probably not a bad idea right now.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (20 April 2007):
 It was only last week and now its back to reality of how things were before. Its got to hurt and no-one can blame you for feeling thae way you do. Where you were so near to her, now it has been ripped away from you and feels even further than before. this will pass.
Keep yourself involved at work as much as you can and keep going out where you can.
Long distance relationships are hard to cope with and you are finding this out now unfortunatly. Its up to you to make this work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I think that's very normal, especially considering you just saw her last week. My boyfriend lives in the UK and I live in the US, and I've always been fine with the distance - until we saw one another again 2 weeks ago. After being with him in person after so long, I became really attached to him. Now that I'm home, I miss him more than ever.
I think all long distance relationships experience this. It's just the ebb and flow. You'll go back to feeling normal eventually. This need to constantly hear her voice probably stems from the fact that you're trying to get used to being without her again, since you just saw her recently.
My advice is just to calm down, and call her when you feel the need. Don't be afraid to pick up the phone and say hi, she'll probably find it sweet. Just don't go overboard with phone calls (like 10 times per day) and you should be fine. Eventually I'm sure you'll go back to feeling okay.
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