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writes:I've been in a long distance relationship for 15 months now. We are in different countries and have never met yet. Lately, I've noticed that things arent what they used to be. Earlier we couldnt stop talking, now its like sometimes we run out of things to say. He loves me very much, of that there is no doubt, and wants to be with me. I do too. Very much. But the fact that we've never met makes things difficult at times. I feel he's taken the relationship for granted. He has stopped making an effort to keep things alive. He's working now, and so am I, in different countries, and the time difference is a bitch! But we've been ok till now. I have been thinking that I should talk to him about this. But I dont know what to say, cos if I hint at anything like that, he says he's putting in effort, and say he cant do more. I love him too much and leaving him will tear me apart. What do I do?? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2012): All of these people claiming an online relationship is not a real relationship have clearly never been in one, or didnt like their online partner that much when they were.As someone who HAS been, and still is, in an online relationship I know exactly what youre talking about. And yes, it is possible to like someone a lot without ever having met them.I had a similar problem with my boyfriend...we ran out of things to talk about. This is becoming we did not have enough things to share, since we were in different countries. I did some research, and solved the problem.1. Use Skype. Use it often. You need to see his face and hear his voice frequently to maintain a sense of closeness.2. Use your cellphone to take pictures and videos of when you go places. This could be your school, restaurant, outings, a nice sunset, anything. Send them to him and have him do the same. It helps the feeling of being present in their life.3. Use google maps. Have him show you his house, his community. Show him yours.Explore countries together. 4. Find websites that allow dual watching where you can watch things at the same time. Watch movies. Pick a tv show, watch it every week together on a day you pick.5. Play truth or dare. Google 'funny/interesting/awkward questions' to ask your partner6. Write him letters and send him gifts, food packets, things from your country. Have him do the same.All of these things should spice up your relationship. I've been with my guy two years now. We met the first time after exactly 15 months together, so YES IT IS POSSIBLE. Dont listen to these other people.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 when do you plan to meet?
15 months having NOT met ever, I'm sorry it's not much of a relationship...
and it sounds like he is not as into you as you are into him.... prepare yourself for this "relationship" to wind down soon...
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