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writes:Hi, Brace yourselves, it's a little long..Less than a month ago, I broke up with my bf of 3 years. The reasons were that for about almost two months, he told me he felt like he didn't feel physically attracted to me anymore (nothing about me has changed) and he wasn't sure if he loved me anymore. He wanted to talk to me and to see if I could help him sort this out because he didn't understand this himself since we seemed really compatible..so we talked a lot and we had decided to stay together. Meanwhile, a lot was going on in both our lives and I still felt something was off and again he gave me the same reasons and even though I tried talking to him about things we could do to make it work, he didn't seem like he was up for it..so i broke it off because he couldn't seem to do it himself. It's been hard for me to accept this because I thought we had a great relationship and I was surprised when he brought all of this up..we still text each other from time to time as we agreed to stay friends for the sake of mutual friends and because we were really close to each other..It's not the same however...I miss him and I get urges to call him and talk to him and see if somehow we can work this out, but I refrain myself from doing so because I think he should be the one to do so. I've been going out a lot, having fun, but I still think of him..and it saddens me to think that he might not be thinking the same thing I am..or that he might've given up on us (I know, silly me, I still have hope...) We had a lot in common..morals, values, movies and we had fun and loads of silly times and we talked things through (this was the first time we didn't manage to work things out). I don't want to beg him or be angry at him- I have some self-respect,but I do get tempted to do so lol. I want to be with him, but at the same time why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want me? It's just the fact that I had/have? a lot of faith in our relationship..I really fell in love with him..A lot of conflicting thoughts in my head..I guess this isn't really a question, but I just wanted to know some of your experiences and thoughts and how to cope with all of this:(Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for responding!:) Yep, I guess I have no choice to move on as he's really not interested anymore..but as you say, I still have a lot to live:)! Best of luck to you!
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Hi well I get what your ex had.. Me and my partner have being together 6 and half year.. And the last few months I don't feel phisically attracted to him what's so ever. I don't kno where it came from and I don't know how to get it back I feel like ending it as it isn't fair on him.. However it did happen a few years back and the attraction did come back.
You need to leave him he as made his mind up even though its hard but why be with someone who isn't attracted to you know more, I'm sure you have more respect about yourself..
The right man will come along and you will forget about him just wait.. Your still young enjoy your life and make the most of being single :)
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