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anonymous
writes:Hiya,Ok I am in desperate need of advice,I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I love him so much however I am thinking of ending our relationship.He is 10 years old than I am (the age has never been an issue and how family and friends are proper supportive)and has a stable job which involves travelling which worked out well as I have been in uni the majority of our relationship. Although he travels a lot he has always been here for me mentally, physically (He always comes back for important events in my calendar), emotionally etc.However it feels like he stopped making an effort. He barely messages me first and hardly calls, I have not seen him for a while now too and Im starting to feel like we are growing apart. I have asked if he wants me and he would constantly say yes and that I am his world. He genially is my best friend and I am afraid that if I end things I wont just lose my boyfriend but my best friend too.I do love him and do see a future with him however I dont know if I still want to be in a relationship with him especially as we never see each other nowadays. Im thinking of waiting until he comes back and seeing how things go when we're together in the flesh however at the moment im 50/50 with this relationship. Please help, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2018): My ex girlfriend and I had this problem. I was to distant and we could have fixed it and right now it seems you need to know how. It sounds so simple and maybe it is but just talk to him. If it's like my situation, he might not even realize he's doing it. It doesn't mean he's not thinking of you 24/7 because, that's how much I thought about her but I rarely texted first or called (we were long distance too). I hope this helped at all. -S
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2018): At your age you are too young to be kept as someones dangling part time infatuation.You need to be in control of your life and that includes choosing who you want to interact with and how regularly.This guy is otherwise taken but he has highlighted some dates he should pay attention to you in your life in order to give you the impression you are loved.But as day to day life ticks by you are seeing otherwise.If boyfriends came in catalogues I would order you one now.Some one who is fabulous and makes you feel that life is precious and every minute of every day counts!In other words someone who is available 24 /7 for companionship and court ship.Someone to whom you are the star that makes day and night brighter.Someone who wants to snuggle and cuddle just because you are their favourite companion.So take a look around and see if cupid can send you someone trully available and so into you that there are no lengthy gaps and absences.Maybe even someone from your own circle that you previously overlooked!Please hand me that catalogue now and I will show it to you.Maybe you could apply to go on love island as you are really just hanging around romantically!
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