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writes: hi there.I really like this guy and we were just good freinds who went out on night outs together. Then one night we ended up going together we are now"fuck buddies" but i have fallen for him in a big way....how do i explain to him that i want more than just going home with him on a monday night? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Elmo Guy +, writes (29 November 2006):
Im a guy, and so Im a horny bastard like he is. We like sex alot and a "F*ck buddy" something we all long for, its even better than a one night stand to us. But truthfully we are emotional no matter how we portray ourselves (if this weren't anonymouse I would never admit this) I suggest that you just tell him straight out "I enjoy the relationship we had as friends, I like the relationship we have now, but I want something more" in yourown words of course...and take whatever his answere is as he gives it, this will probably end the "f*ck buddy" thing, and if he says no it will probably not end the relationship, but just make it awkward in which case you need to deal with it being awkward for about a month and then tell him "Look Im sorry I liked you, Im sorry I thought I could have sex with you and it would mean nothing, but it did mean something, and now it doesn't, so lets just get over it and stop being so retardedly awkward about it." If this doesn't work than at least you tried, but I would say (without knowing the guys personality, but if he has "F*ck buddies" I can make a better guess) there is about a 60 percent chance it will work.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 The problem with sleeping with your friend is that your friend then becomes your lover and as you have found out love can and does enter into it.
Having sex with someone other than for money or other gain is an emotional affair, you are intimate with someone and share bodies, experiences, secrets and before long you yearn for them when they are not there, you want more than just sex every friday night, you start wanting them to ring you, text you, you want to know what they are doing when they are not with you and suddenly you start to want more than they are wanting to give, jealousy and pain creeps in and this is were you are at now.
What you need to do is find out if he wants more too, it is possible, to do this you really have to come clean, tell him you feel more for him than just sex.
Tell him that you feel you could have a proper relaionship with him and then see how he reacts, if he just wants to continue the sex then sorry but you need to end it before he screws up your emotions more than he has already.
Hopefully he will want to take the sex to a more normal and balanced relationship and all will be well. good luck but go for it, dont put this off too long.
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