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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hello friends,i got engaged to a guy who is completely selected by my parents. Our enagegement is over before 20 days, But till now there is no interest shown bu that guy toward me.We are getting married after 20days. Daily i will be witing for his call , But he will not call me at all. I have to call him always. Could someone tell me what might be the reason? why is he like this?Eagerly waiting for your reply.thanks and regards
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reader, ice_4fire +, writes (8 November 2010):
Hi Dear,
I am from India and probably your age. I am totally aware about mentality of parents in India since I too have a sister of one year old than me.
I am very supportive to her and told her that she would better look for love marriage since arrange marriage is far risky. Our parents are actually against this but we brother, sister have our unity.
For your case, I strongly suggest to meet your guy and really really know him. I have seen various cases where are guys are not happy with marriage but because of parents they do marriage and then tell their wife that just continue the marriage for formality!
Dear, please analysie your would be husband/partner in a great deal and don't be shy at all.
Further, in case your engagement happens, then also please look after him and smartly try to know what's in his mind.
Your decision must be changed even after engagement.
Remember "Your parents, society may say negative to you but marriage is not only your decision but also it will be of your future children"
So its okay to be selfish and have your decision because its your life.
When we do marriage, thousands of people will come to eat pizzas but if the same marriage suffers from any problem, tell me how may people who ate that pizza will come and join you???
People only share pizza of joy and not of problems.
Be careful dear. All the best
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 I guess this is one of the risks of an arranged marriage.
This guy has been selected by your parents ( in agreement with HIS parents, I imagine ).
While you seem to be Ok with this arrangement, maybe he is simply going along with it without too much enthusiasm. Maybe he did not want to get married just yet, or maybe he had some other candidate in mind.
If you really care to know, why don't you just ask him openly and honestly next time you call him.
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