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writes: Hi,I am 24 years old and found out a month ago that I am pregnant. The father and I have been very good friends for years and dated for awhile. I am completely in love with him and while he tells me he cares about me and loves me, he says he does not know if he wants to be with me. We both agreed to have this child as we know we can give the child a great life...but I want more. I want to be with him and love him and our child. He has stopped seeing anyone else and has been pretty supportive, but I am scared that he will act this way now and then pull away. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, Irish! I will keep you posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): You have made a child with a man you love but he seem sto not feel as strongly about you and you fear, he will eventually bail out/pull away on you. There's not a lot you can do except to make the best of this and hope he can come through, and be there for you and this child, over the longterm. This child does deserve to know it's father and this child needs it's father's full involvement in it's life. Ideally, the best situation would be if this man could give you a solid committment amd make you and this baby his first priority. But he sounds unsettled and a bit 'iffy'. However, if I were you, I'd seriously look out for yourself and this baby. Have a good plan in place in case this man does bail out on you and the child. If you are educated or have a career...what ever you do, keep empowering your life and don't give that up. There are wonderful childcares out there to help if you have to go back to work and support this child on your own. And keep trusted family member and friends in mind, should you need the help and emotional support. I do wish you the best of luck, dear and I hope this man can learn to love you as much as you love him. Every child deserves to have a Mom and a Dad who love each other in the same way. Keep us posted.
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