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writes:My boyfriend and I moved in together 6 months ago and since then we argue almost everyday. At this point I don't even know why we are agueing. We love each other and when we calm down its really easy to see this but we are driving ea other nuts with all the fights. Can anyone please suggest something to help us. Things are hard right now as we are for the first time financially independent from our parents and living in a tiny flat. Could this be frustrations of sudden reality check?? Please any help would be appreciated.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Hello my darling,
Moving in together, isn't it a bitch? The first 6 months are the toughest, because you're really adjusting to cohabiting with another human being. And living with your man isn't at ALL like living with the family, right? It's tough, it really is.
When I first moved in with my fella it was exactly like that. Stupid fights, about stupid stuff and then after 15 minutes of being stupid, we would stop and say, "hmm... this is stupid.". I think you put it totally well, it's the stress of a sudden reality check. When you begin living with each other suddenly you don't have any alone time, and neither of you have to court each other quite as much. You don't go on as many dates because now you're in the same place all the time... you get what I'm saying.
Definitely give yourself some space away from each other - not in a mean way, just in a realistic way. You guys need a break from each other!
You'll work out the kinks if the love is there like you said. You'll learn so much about each other and in another 6 months you'll get into a nice groove of living together.
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