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writes:Hi, I kind of like this girl, we've known each other for 2 or so years and we're just starting to be best friends now, but like I don't want to ruin anything between us but at the same time I want to tell her that I like her and I have done for a few weeks now. But here's the big problem.. I don't know how to tell her. I cant come right out and say it, any ideas?
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reader, troubled teenager :/ +, writes (23 July 2008):
 if i was you i would just "pluck" up the courage and tell her and i'm sure things would turn out alright as she probably likes you too and even if you don't end up together you might find yourselves even closer. see how it goes. :)
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reader, Enrique  +, writes (12 July 2008):
If you two really are good enough friends, then you should be able to come out and tell her. 1. She could like you back. 2. She could appreciate you telling her, and you both could use it as a way to get closer, even though she doesn't feel the same way. 3. You two aren't as good of friends as you thought, and she takes awkwardly.
In the event that number 3 does happen, give her space! do not try to question her about it or seem completely desperate. But it sounds like this will not happen, so my advice is go and tell her! you never know what might happen, friendships are usually very good breeding grounds for something more.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (12 July 2008):
 What you could do first is verify your feelings for her. Try to see if what you feel now is what you will feel later. After much pondering if your answer is "yes", then you should tell her your feelings
I had this same situation happen to me, but vice-versa. About two years ago I used to like my best friend and I thought he liked me too, but nothing happened in between us as neither of us told our feelings. He got a girlfriend and I gave up on him, but I don't regret it because I found the love of my life.
Now two years later, my best friend is leaving for the Navy. Of course we were sad, him specially since he would not see all of his friends. Weeks before leaving he tells me he needs to get out something off is chest and that he wants to do it before it's too late. I immediately knew what he was talking about. At first he hesitated because he feared it would ruin the relationship, but I assured him I would understand. He then tells me that he has liked me for so long and that he still does, but never got the courage to ask me out. After seeing how happy I was now with my boyfriend, he gave up completely, but his feelings didn't fade away.
As I promised him, this would not ruin our relationship. We're still best friends, even now that we don't see each other and talk much. I still love him as a friend and I still want to be his friend.
What I'm saying all in here is that if your friend is a TRUE friend, she will still want to be your friend even after you tell her your feelings and if she doesn't return them. And if you're rejected and if you're also a true friend, you will still be happy for her if she finds someone who makes her happy.
You can give it a shot, but just do it if you feel strongly for her. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): You don't have to confess your undying love to her, but let her know that you are starting to have feelings for her, but that you respect your friendship. Ask her if she feels the same way, if so, GREAT!! If not, atleast you know and don't have to spend the rest of your days wondering. If she dosn't feel the same way, make a point to not make the friendship weird. All my prayers Mr. Magooo....I pray that her feelings are the same.
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