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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): I know exactly what your talking about.Im in the same situation right now. Well what im doing is taking other intrests in other guys and i stoped talking to him so if he wants to talk to me he will have to text me im not texting him...also flirt with more guys and remeber your options are very open so goodluck and i hope you have the best of luck. just forget about him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): hey i have the same problem i guess if he does not like you you can just forget him but if he does that is just hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): Hey!
Just read what you wrote and actually I have the same problem. Damn it!! I hate them, well I hate him, cause I just love him too much. But you can`t choose whom you love, so we have to cope with him or in our case without him... The only advice I can give you is( as all the others) keep yourself occupied with friends, new guys (pls hot guys!!!)and if really really necessary school work. I´m sure all of friends will understand how you feel and will know how to help you and be by your side. Just tell yourself (is what I try to convince myself about) for every one of us there is one perfect guy and one day we will find him. If it didn`t work out between the both of you, there must be a reason: There is someone so much better waiting for you outside!!! And remember we´re both quite young (I´m 17) and our life has just barely began. So don´t worry be happy ; )
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): all you have to do this focus on your work and meet new people and then you may slowly forget about you crush. But if it still doesn't work, your not alone on this world because i have a crush on this guy in my grade and i tried everything to get his attention and finally i gave up and moved on, i found out that meeting new people was so much fun then actually flirting with one type of guy. THere is guys out there and you'll be surprised that there are alot of hot single guys out there..... go get them before there gone
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): I know how you feel..I went out with a guy, and then we broke up and i still have feelings for him. You just gotta know..if you wanna get over him so badly, you obviously dont really like him as much as you think. so move on! forget about him! he's just slowing you down!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): The best way to forget one guy is to find a new guy and focus your attention on him. It may not be exactly what you want, but I've found it to be extremely effective. Continue to surround yourself with friends and keep busy. Your goal is to keep your mind occupied until you start to forget.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): i have been in a longest relationship with this specific guy and i broke up with him i couldnt take it anymore and i am still thinking about him i really wanna try to move on but it wont work i have tryed deleting pictures blocking out his name and just moving on talking to other friends and he calls me i cant miss his call its too hard i miss him styll after all i did
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): i know exactly how u feel hun..i been thinking about the same guy since i was 15 now i'm 19 and i still can't seem to get him of my mind...i'm not sure how to answer ur questions when i don't even know the answer..but as hard as it is for us to move on WE HAVE TOO!!.. just keep ur self busy with friends and family...thinking about him 24/7 is not gonna change anything but make u sad...good luck i hope everything works out the way u want it too and i hope you get waht you want in the end..keep ur head up
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): Hey! i know how hard it is for you to forget this guy... but sure you can give a try... keep yourself busy everytime he comes in to your mind... example call your friends talk to them, go out with them for shoping, cook yourself a nice meal. watch your favourate movie and try as much as possible not to talk about him........after all they are realy good guys out there hoping to get a girl like u so why waste your time on him...... wish you luck....:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): I had and still have the same problem, I like this one guy, I really, really like him, one day when he moved I cried for days, but then I kinda got used to it and forgot all about him. The next time he came and I saw him every feeling I had for him got back to me, I just wish that I never met him, now I am trying to forget about him. For you I would suggest just even though you may see him everyday at school, and you know where he is, try to ignore him, and make yourself forget about him, try to like another really cute guy and the one who is nice to you and makes you feel speacial inside! Just remember no matter what happens you can't stop or turn back time so just think different and do your best to let go of all your feelings. Go out, have fun, and be yourself. Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): When you start to think of him, think of the negatives not the positives. I also agree with the other advice given by the above two!
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reader, alwaysbrokenhearted_20056 +, writes (29 January 2006):
 one way to forget about a guy is another. Try dating other guys. If you still cant get this guy off your mind. Reconsider the thought that you might love him. You are never too young to love. Maybe is it meant for you two to be together.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 Did you ever hear that routine that goes, "Don't think of the white horse"?
As soon as you read "white horse", you think of a white horse, so you can't NOT think of it, right?
The same thing happens when you try to "forget" someone you cared about. You can concentrate so hard on forgetting, that you constantly have to remind yourself to remember to forget the thing you're forgetting. It can be mentally exhausting.
My point is, to move on, you have do things that DON'T remind you of him. Sometimes that means you have to get out of old habits that you've fallen into, or even avoid situations or people that you're used to.
Go over in your mind the triggers that make you think of him, and see if you can re-write your behaviours and activities to avoid putting yourself in front of those triggers.
For example, if going to a certain restaurant makes you think of the first time you talked to him, you might need to decide if you can live without going there. If you see his sister at choir practice every week, you might need to look into a different hobbyy. Is it better to have the old habits, or to avoid the recurrent pain? You have to decide that for yourself.
The other thing you can do is stay really busy. Join clubs, see your female friends, volunteer at the animal shelter, help a kid learn to read etc. All those things can cheer you up and take your mind off your own worries, at least until enough time has passed that you don't care so much.
Hope this helps.
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reader, mariah1105nc +, writes (27 January 2006):
Well the best way I have learned to get over a guy requires two things..... time and distance. You have to allow yourself time to move on and forget about him. It is not going to happen overnight, but with time I promise you can do it. Distance is also a key...... you have to not be around him all time. Give yourself space from him so you can allow yourself to move forward. No one can get over someone if they spend all their time with them. Combine this with spending time doing things you love and I promise you will move on....... best of luck sweet heart because I have been in the situation more times than I can count
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