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writes:It will be coming upto three years at the end of this month that I have been together with my boyfriend and things have been going downhill quite quickly. Now I don't wanna compare myself to other people or couples but I thought that around the three year mark you would at least start to consider the next step but not for my boyfriend all he cares about is his Xbox and drinking every weekend.I'm going to be 27 next year and I'm starting to wonder what the point is in all of this he has no desire to move out and get a life of our own I love him very much but what's the point of staying together with someone for another 2 years when they have no intention of proposing or an attempting of moving forward.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 December 2012):
 In the last 3 years YOU might have matured and grown a lot.. he hasn't.
I agree with SVC - he is happy with status quo. He will not change over night, if at all.
No matter how long you wait or how much you love him, he wants to live his life as he sees fit you are "just" an added bonus but not the person his life revolves around - that person (to him) is him alone..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 December 2012):
 He's very happy with his life the way it is.
He's not going to change.
After 3 years at your age a man knows what he wants and clearly what he wants is not what you want.
If you want to get married to an adult, then I suggest you start making an exit plan and soon... it will not be easy to leave someone you love that you have been with for three years but if you stay you will just get more of the same and it will be harder later on to leave... and you will be that much older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): "what's the point of staying together with someone for another 2 years when they have no intention of proposing or an attempting of moving forward."
What's the point of staying with someone for another day when you've already wasted three years of your life (11.1%) waiting for him to magically "change" into a person he isn't, never was, and never will be?
If you stay with him another two years, then you'll likely be asking the same questions at age 29, and age 31, and age 33 . . .
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