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writes:I am 16 and my girl is 15 goin on 16 and we both want a baby......I want to stay with her for the rest of my life and we been 2gether for a year and 2months, We really know what we want it's just things changing my mind.....people who told me how hard it may be and how expensive but i dont care cause i have a job.....we really want it....SO what should I do.
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reader, mar mar +, writes (25 April 2008):
mar mar is verified as being by the original poster of the question I am goin to have a lot of thought bout it thank tou
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hey I have got an idea!!!!! Why don't you guys get a VIRTUAL REALITY BABY FOR A WEEK and see how you guys cope??
I bet you won't last FIVE MINUTES. Babies are a 24/7 commitment, they may be cute and cuddly, but also they are demanding,expensive,noisy and crap their nappies about five or six times a day. And another thing...... say if you guys wanted to hang out with friends. Who is gonna babysit????
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): It's real simple. You wait. You wait until you are both around twenty, you both have a reasonable income that isn't in danger of disappearing and you have both completed your education and you have a place of your own to live in, and you have lived together for some time. Then you ask yourselves - can we afford a baby? Can we fit in a baby?Children are demanding. Babies require feeding and nappy-changing and baths and stimulating play all the time, and it only increases as they get older. You won't be able to go out and drink and enjoy yourselves until the baby is old enough for a sitter, and one of you will have to be a full-time carer until the baby is old enough for school, unless you can afford daycare.You haven't even lived together. How do you know you'll be together forever? Can you survive the exhausting sleepless nights, the arguments, and the financial drain of a baby? Does your girlfriend really want a baby? To have to spend money on maternity clothes, to have to drop out of school to care for the baby, for the weight of carrying the child around while she's pregnant while her spine is still developing? She's fifteen. She's not even legal yet.A child is a lifetime commitment. You will never be rid of the responsibility and duties you owe your son or daughter until you are in your grave. Why don't you want to live first? Don't you have big plans or ambitions? See the world, go on fabulous holidays, make lots of cash? What you do is very simple - you and your girlfriend give yourselves the time to enjoy being young and carefree, and if you're still together in six or seven years, then you will be in a perfect stable time for a baby. But not now, honey. Now you enjoy being sixteen and fifteen.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Ahhh yes, this reminds me of my boyfriend when I was sixteen, we were going to be together forever and ever, never to part...I wonder where he is these days?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Get married.
If you can't do that for any reason (money, differing opinions about how the wedding should be handled, commitment issues, family, etc) then it's a total joke to think that you're ready for a baby.
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reader, anddrea +, writes (24 April 2008):
 ok please be very careful about this really! i made that mistake when i was young i was with my now ex, and we got preg i thought great well be so happy spend the rest of our lives togeather everything will be great! well what a mistake, dont get me wrong i love my son dearly and would not change him for anything! But you are young you change as you get older its only when you get into your 20s that meet your friends that you will choose to have in your life forever same goes with girls, its because your outlook in life at 15 is soooo different rose tinted classes! i mean get your job travel a little bit together grow with each other, then when you have a house a job a car and seen some of the world then have a baby, Because trust me when you have a child its not that easy to do, possible but not easy!! do you really want to bring a child up in a world where you have no money or nights out or anything!!
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reader, jazz25  +, writes (24 April 2008):
Its just too easy to say those words. You're still both very young. You just say that because you are just blinded by your love for her. If you two are really meant for each other, you both will wait for the right time.There's nothing to hurry about. At your age, its too risky. I know a lot of people who get married so early.. Believe me, they have lots of issues. Consider also the big responsibilty you are going to tackle. I become a mom at a very young age also. Its easier said than done. Eventhough you already have a job and you think you can feed your own family, your responsibilty does not stops there. Take a look at the big picture. Just wait for the right time. You still have a long way to go.
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