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writes:A question for the girls, mainly. What can a guy do or say to a girl to let her know he thinks she's special, he's attracted to her and she makes him feel wonderful in a way she will appreciate and that will make her feel as happy and wanted as he'd like her to? Is it enough to say those things that bluntly? I often have difficulty expressing the full depth and complexity of my feelings and while trying to do so, in fact fail to express even a fraction of how I feel. Perhaps there's something to be said for the motto "keep it simple"! Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Sometimes when I'm talking about something I feel passionately about, my husband will be listening, then I get the feeling that he's stopped paying attention to my words. I'll look over at him and he'll be looking at me with a kind of glazed expression. I'll say, "You're not listening to me right now are you?" and he'll reply, "You're just so beautiful when you talk about things you love."
Melts my heart every time. I also forget what I've been talking about!
You sound lovely, just be yourself and follow all the other good tips you've already had here from the aunties.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Better than almost anything is to pay attention to her - and so few men can ever do it properly!
Notice when she's wearing something new. Notice when she has had her hair done. Notice when she's particularly happy or unhappy or when something is worrying her.
Listen to her and remember what she says - even when it's trivial. A simple comment like "I remember you said you liked ..." (ice cream? hotdogs? the smell of roses? sunsets? a new moon?) - just show her that you take an interest in what she likes.
Also, a touch that isn't sexual can be wonderful. A hand on a shoulder. A mere brush of your hand against hers when there's no particular reason to do it - followed by a smile and eye contact. It doesn't always need words.
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reader, anddrea +, writes (24 April 2008):
 It is the simple things that a girl loves, like running your hand softly over her skin, telling her how beautiful she is, looking at her and enjoying her. I mean enjoying her smell, touching her skin, her hair. She will know when you're totally into her and only her and this will make her feel so special and so important! It's all about the touch, telling her softly how you feel or what she means to you. All spontaneously! good luck.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hi
Thats really nice! Very unusual to hear of a guy that actually thinks about that because i still reakon relationships could last a lot longer in this world if guys and girls made their partner feel 'special'
Well, in my opinion, and i do have an opinion on this because its a very important issue to me, i would say if you mention how gorgeous she is every now n then, completely out of context of whats going on at the time or being said. Even go as far as to say your way more gorgeous than, say, a famous person on the tv at that moment. But make it spontanious, and mean it of course.
If she does something she feels is wrong or makes a mistake, say to her 'and here was me thinking you were perfect!' in a jokey way. I had just those 2 couple of things (along with various unobvious other things) from a guy years ago, and he was the best guy ive been with that made me feel really special to him. Like i was the best thing since sliced bread. A girl will really go for that feeling! And will feel the same back.
Ive also been with someone that made me feel i was here for their benefit, mainly for what i could do for them, and even though he's a great bloke as a friend now, thats not the way to make a girl feel special and have it returned in a relationship.
Good luck. Hope you get lots of tips.
C xxxxx
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