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writes:Did he ban me from his gym because he is a pervert and he realised i wasn't soft and he might be rumbled?I thought this spanish gym owner where i go in my town was a nice guy. He is 46 and i am 16. He helped me and was really friendly but i always had a gut instinct (as i was a victim of a pervert last year) and he was more friendly since my dad stopped coming. I caught him smiling at me, says my name everytime but no one elses, touches my arms and leg. Makes jokes and laughs, random statements all the time. Showed me his muscles. Anyway, i hurt my back and he broke the door in and rubbed my back and leg and stroked my cheek but i was in pain so it could be totally innocent and him just caring. the other day after a day off, i went back and he was mean about what i could do, anyway we had an argument and i got angry with him and stood up for myself,(I tried to grab the phone off him) and my hand swung up and just missed his face. i hid in the bathroom and he called the cops. but i hurt my back and then i said sorry when the gym man was stood at the gym, so then this gym guy was trying to help and stroking my hair and getting me up from the floor (I had fallen with a rack and collapsed and I had hit my head and hurt my back again) but was acting really wierd. at the hospital, my mum said she just thought there was something wrong about him... he caught them in the corridoor and rushed over and was in their face and the doctor tried to get rid of him but he wouldnt go. he came back and was there again and my mum just said there was something not right. anyway, he said i couldnt go back to the gym. i was talking to my mum and it just popped into my head because when i was at the gym, i was very very shy and then he saw me differently and this happened, and he seemed really wierd and then would not go away at the hospital but not like a caring way, something else...then he banned me. it is as if he was up to something and then because i stood up for myself and this happened, now he has banned me.?he was rushing in and trying to tell my parents about that i wouldnt speak and stuff and i dont understand why he was doing that? He was like desperate to get in there. The doctor told me that he was afraid of me now but it just doesn’t add up. do you think he chucked me out because i wasn’t the shy girl he thought? It has crossed my mind that as soon as i showed a different side to the shy idiotic girl, he then wanted me out, yes i know it might be because of the argument and the injury and all the things he said as to why he wanted this but still, nothing like this happened before and he was there like desperate to get in everyones faces at the hospital, he then knew i had not hurt my back at the gym, it was a previous injury but he still did not leave.He does have a daughter, maybe under 10He was still nice to me though. Maybe i felt patronized but i am not sure. I had tried to explain that i thought he was going to get me arrested and i was scared and he was like "Noooo" so it was one big misunderstanding and then all the other stuff about me not speaking cropped up and suddenly he doesn't want me back. Bit wierd.I do want to go back but was this a lucky escape? I don’t if he will let me back in, I am going to wait about a month and see for another chance but if this is the case, then he wont let me back…
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reader, missy_musk  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 You need to trust you gut instinct. To me personally that sounds incredably dodgy and suspicious. If i were you id steer well clear of him and his gym. You metioned that he "touches" your arm and leg. Ask yourself, does everyone do that? of course not. And there is no reason that he should be either. What kind of a gym owner pestures a young woman at the hospital? Not an innocent guy thats for sure! Explain to your parents what has been going on, they need to know. You should not be afraid to tell them whats going on and what your feeling about it, especially because of past experiences, they are your parents and they will not judge you. However this is something that has been constantly in your mind and the issues need to be addressed now for the safety of yourself and mabe even other young women such as yourself!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 sounds like a lot of drama just to get some exercise. find a new gym and stay away from people you get bad vibes from
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