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writes:I met this girl early september and we were friends from the first week really. We see each other every few days as we have classes together and we do spend a fair bit of spare time in between together too just chatting etc.I did feel as if she started to like me, I noticed the big change in hair and makeup along with multiple texts every day even after we just spoke.Her friends make it really obvious too, she does get shy when they do but she doesnt hate it. Today her friend started asking me how i would ask a girl out and if I dont do it quick enough isnt it going to confuse the girl?! I was thinking what!! are you serious, what the hell was she trying to hint? It made me think alot of the way home, and that girl (one that likes me) actions all made sense.In other words her friends hinting me to ask her mate out right?But i dont know why im not sure? I love her as a friend, I do find her attractive but I just feel if I go out with her, theres no friend left? Does that make sense? I dont know what to expect.At the same time I think, what if i never went for it? Will I regret it later?p.s Ive been invited to watch a movie with her and her friends tomorrow, in fact she made me promise to go in such a cute way I couldnt say no (even though i hate the cinema)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 yes she wants you to ask her out...
when you go to the movies sit next to her and see if she sends "hold my hand signals"
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reader, mrfunny +, writes (21 November 2012):
mrfunny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the detailed reply and other responses.
Today all her friends have dropped out and left just me and her to go.
I might aswell go check it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 Yes, it sounds like the friend was hinting. Not too subtly, too:).
What do you want to do with the hint, of course it's up to you.
I think you like the girl, but not terribly so- not as romance material. You like her because she is attractive and she is willing and she is conveniently right there under your nose. But maybe there's not enough chemistry, that hard to explain " je ne sais quoi " that makes you see someone as special. Or , maybe you enjoy her company as it is now, on a casual basis, but you know or suspect that having it one-on-one would be... too much of a good thing.
I am saying this because, if you really had liked her you'd have asked her out already , hints or not- and in case you are shy / prudent / undecisive, you'd have jumped at this hint without too many quandaries. I still have to meet a man who is worried about possibly " ruining the friendship " ( if we can even call it friendship, since you met her two months ago ! ) when they are really,really into some woman :).
Of course, there are two school of thoughts . One would say : naaah, if she does not really makes your blood boil and capture your mind, why putting up with all the hassles and limitations of dating and courting and maybe being in a relationship - you are going to make a simple situation complicated, while there may be dozens of better options out there.
The second says - why not, it's worth giving it a try, and see what happens, and if anything develops in terms of feelings . A date is just a date, ask her out and take it from there.
Neither approach is correct or incorrect, just choose the one which is more suited to your personality .
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 November 2012):
 Does she have to smack you over the head with it? Just ask her out already, if you like her (I'm not sure from your question). She invited you to the movies with her because she was nervous to ask you out and thought a group date would seem less threatening.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): I can understand your dilemma, but if you retread your end part of your post, the ps part... You can clearly see you like her too...
Why not say to her when you have a quiet moment away from her friends, why don't we take this slow and see where it goes? If you don't feel the chemistry when out with her alone then tell her gently that your like her friendship and don't want to ruin that..
Its hard I know, But if you keep it low key then no one should get hurt..
But I'd say go for it.. You may kick yourself oneday if you don't..
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