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writes:Is it a good sign that my ex girlfriend asks me to go shopping with her and we're having lunch with eachother.Me and my ex girlfriend were together for a year and a half and we did everything together but I got drunk at her prom and embrassed her and we had a huge argument. We have been broken up for a month and a few days and I've been txting her telling her my feelings and asking her to get bk together with me but she didn't reply soo I rang her up and she agreed to have lunch with me then later that day she asked me if I would like to go shopping with her soo I went shopping with her and it was great we were talking about the old days but she also talking about other guys is she trying to make me envious. Then she sent me a txt saying that today was fun and we should do it again what does this mean is this a good sign. However today she said she was too busy to see me is she playing hard to get please reply and give me some advice thanks.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 I'll get you for that!!! No, seriously, don't worry about it. I just hope it will help you.
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reader, TomOliver +, writes (1 August 2008):
TomOliver is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies keep then coming please oops sorry Tisha 1 I rated you're answer incorrectly I was meant to give it 5 stars
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 August 2008):
It could be that she is playing hard to get. It could be that she is just testing the waters to see if she can forgive you and forget what happened.
Or it could be that she feels bad about making you hurt and wants to be friends with you.
I think you are best off asking her. You've already told her you still have feelings for her, so it would be perfectly fair to ask her:
"Look, you know I want to get back together. And I don't want to get hurt so if you just want to be friends with me I need you to tell me so I don't get my hopes up."
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 August 2008):
I think that it's a good sign she's still speaking to you. I wouldn't phrase it as 'playing hard to get.' She has, after all, been yours at one time. And if you really messed up, as it sounds like you did, then you lost her trust and her respect.
It sounds like she is seeing if you are worthy of that trust and respect again. I expect you're going to have to work hard to get them back.
See, we women are funny that way. We want to be able to admire and be proud of our boyfriends. If the boyfriend does something that is disrespectful, dumb and makes him look like an idiot, well then, we're likely to think of him as being an idiot. Especially if it reflects badly on the girl. People might look at her and think, 'why is she with that jerk?'
So maybe she is giving you another chance, but this time, she is going to be way more cautious. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, might be the aphorism that applies here.
My advice would be just to take it slowly, tell her that you are very very sorry indeed for your appalling behavior and that it will never happen again. That you would like to be with her again, but you understand that she might not want to take you back. You will wait patiently and do the things you need to do to repair that respect.
Don't wait for her forever, of course, that's not reasonable either. But give it some time.
Good luck.
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