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writes: Hi, this message is about trust issues.I need to know if I was wrong here. I went out with a girl for 6 months, during the first 3-4, she'd be sarcastic but in a funny way. I never read too much into it and just laughed it off or gave as good as I got. I always considered it to be banter. The problem is that in the last couple of months, some of the things were a bit too much. For example, one time she said that I was a 'mouse', another time she said that she was looking for an Alpha male and that I'd have to take lessons to become one, she said that I grovelled too, but it was always done at a time when we were joking around or having a banter. I know, perhaps this makes me look weak I guess.One time however I got angry and told her that if she wanted the relationship over then that was fine. She responded by crying and saying "I'd never say anything to hurt someone, I'm not like that". Me like a fool believed that maybe I'd got it wrong. The problem is that I'd always believed that she was a decent girl and would never behave like that. She's a popular girl who's liked by everyone and they all believe that she wouldn't hurt a fly!A couple of things you should also know is that she had zero assertiveness, she was a bit of a coward, well not a bit, a lot! Also, she seems to have issues with anyone thinking badly of her, that used to really play on her mind! Despite all this, she does seem to go for b@stards, not that I am one I might add! but maybe I was a let down!I'm now wondering if I got it all wrong and in fact she's a closet bitch, just that she hasn't got the assertiveness to show that side to the world! Also, was I wrong to be confused by all this?The thing that really did my head in is that everytime I confronted her over anything, she'd try to lie her way out of it rather than look bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust read up on Passive Agressive, that was so her! Had I known this I might have been able to do something. I couldn't see the wood for the trees :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2007): Join the club mate. You don't look weak you look like you've got it sussed. I'll try and write more later if I have time. Not much help I know! Good luck.
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