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writes: my boyfriend of 3years has stopped any sexual contact with me what so ever and the second he gets to be alone he looks at porn on the computer well the 40inch hd tv computer screen that is (great)! he got his pc last september and weve had sex about 3 times if that since xmas! he starts the second i leave the house and can look for HOURS! What the Hell shud i do is he obsessed with porn? he lies thru his teeth to me about it too. but i have something on the p.c that checks he goes in to other ppls accounts thru mIRC all types ov porn will do him? why dosent he want the real thing too???
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Maybe if he got a JOB, he wouldn't have so much time on his hands? DUMP HIM
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): I feel for you I really do because I am in a similiar situation myself, when a man lets porn take over his life it certainly means one thing, big trouble, but if he loves you and wants to stay with you then he has to admit that he has got a problem first, then secondly he has got to want to do something about it, like going to a sex therapist/counsellor. Are you willing to support him? if he is addicted and it sounds like he is, he will always want to view it, so will tell lie after lie to you, and each time you catch him, it will be like another knife in your heart, are you willing to put yourself thru mental anguish. Please don't blame yourself as it is absolutely not you fault, it is nothing that you have done, it is his problem, his issues, some do like to shift the blame by saying things like, if you let me have it more I wouldn't have to look, or, if you were thinner, everything they can think of to pass the blame, don't let him do that to you. Please be strong and find things that make you feel good about yourself as this addiction can affect your self esteem. I wish you all the best and hope you can find away thru this, I myself am still looking and hoping but sometimes I think it will put an end to my marriage.
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reader, Rikki  +, writes (17 May 2007):
Yes, but just talk to him. This is not the reason to leave anyone. Because sooner or later the person realize that he is wrong. But its your duty to make him feel that he is addicted and help him come out.Good luck:-)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 Yep he sure sounds addicted to me. When porn (or anything else one is addicted to) starts interfering with a person's normal lifestyle then they have a problem. You can talk to him about it but it really is all up to him to get help. If he's unwilling then you will have to walk, it won't get any better. Good luck.
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