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writes: I'm not sure if you will be able to answer this butI've been trying for a baby for 18 months. Nothing seems to be happening. I've been to doctors and they have referred me to a gynocologist because they think I'm having fertility problems. I'm only 19 and the first time I ever had sex I fell pregnant but I miscarried. Now it seems I can't fall pregnant at all and it is beginning to make me emotionally drained and I cant stop crying. Have you got any advice that might help me to concieve?
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, becci, writes (14 February 2005): Hi, I can really sympathise with you, I have felt like this before.I am 19 and have a 10month old son, Adam. He was a struggle to conceive aswell, but my case was different. I had been on the depo-provera pill injection which takes a maximum of 18 months to get out of your system. After 20months of trying to get pregnant, the doctor thought I may have had Poly-cystic ovaries, so I was meant to go for a scan. I don't know if you know what that is, but it's where lots of little cysts form around the ovaries and make it difficult to conceive, (basically). It turned out that I didnt need to go for a scan after all as I fell pregnant a month later, I was over the moon. Anyway, I would say don't give up and don't let it get to the point where you and you partner are having sex just to get pregnant because that can have an effect on your chances aswell. Make time for each other, go out to your favourite place, have a romantic time and don't be afraid to experiment. When I conceived it was a bit wild, I won't go into details but, whenyou are finished put you legs in the air. I know it sounds strange but I think it worked for me. Lay on your back and put you hands in the arch of you back and lift your legs, like you are doing the "air-bike". If you can stay there for 5mins at least, try it. It may have just been a coincidence that it worked for me, but by the way you sound you are desperate fo a baby and I guess you will try anything. Take folic acid aswell, that helps. When you do fall pregnant ( because you WILL) take a natural pill called Pregnacare, you will find it in any health shop. It gives the baby everything it needs, especially if you suffer from morning sickness, the baby gets a lot of nutrience from that and you are less likely to miscarry again. I took it for 6 months and he was born 8lbs 4 and 1/2 ounces, thank God. Don't forget, making a baby is not as easy as it sounds. Try to have as much action as possible, around the 12-16th day of the month which is when you are more likely to conceive. If it does turn out that you have poly-cystic ovaries, it isn't so serious, Victoria Beckham has it and she will have 3 kids soon. There are ways of getting around it too, so try not to be too worried. Relax and instead of thinking about sex to get pregnant, think about sex because you love your man. Be patient, I know how you feel,it's hard and frustrating but it will happen when the time is right and when it's meant to be. I am sure you will have no problems with the gynaecologist,he/she will reassure you that you are probably fit and well.I wish you the very best of luck, have fun and take care of yourself. Please don't hesitate to contact me in the future if you need to talk to someone.All the best,Becci
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