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writes: I and my mom are very alike in character, we are both strong hearted and strong willed. When she met my father everything changed she was duped of all her wealth and became a slave to my father. He sent us packing. Since then my mom feels unworthy of being called a parent. Even at parental functions, she is always timid. She feels she is in no position to advice me. I feel really sad for her and haven't had the personal time for her to pour her heart out to me but I can only comfort her and not give her money cos i am still a student (not working). Right now out of all my moms children(3 kids), I am the strongest, people often call me stone heart, especially guys and most are scared of me. I don't want to make the same mistake as my mom did as i feel she was too picky with men that's why she's this way but we all know my father is a deceiver. Could she have been a victim or made a wrong choice? I am also very picky with men and am not dating currently cos am so scared I should wait till am older. Should I ask my mom when am older what's wrong with her or ask her now?
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reader, helza8a  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 I can relate to you, my mom had it hard with my dad,and she ended up runing away with us. and i always knew about their past, and yes it made me a harder person, i am very picky too, but over the years ive learned that we have to learn to trust ourselfs, if i could give you any advice on love it would be to be picky we all what our perfect man ,and why shouldnt we get him. think in your mind the type of man you what (excude the physical) focuse on who he is as a person and form your perfect man,if you dont what him to be a bastard then just make sure he isnt one,take the time to learn about who he is inside and out,and be paitient. he will come and when he does it will be worth it. About your mom, dont be hard on her ofcourse she a victim, we as humans give our hearts away hopeing that othes we give it too will care for it, but some times that isnt so, and we are left heart broken, with a part of us missing.Think of ways for you to Let her see how great she is, if she thinks shes not a good mom then show her she is. I know it may be hard but sometimes our parents need us to be there for them . ive had a few crying talks with my mom, and yes its hard to open up, but our relationship is that much better for it. so give it a try.
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