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*eema shahid
writes:myself and my husband we had been out for a picnic with a group of friends and their was a female who had worn revealing clothes my husband would look at her in breaks as we were together all the time eating and drinking does this show he was imagining her with him and thinking lustfully about her or was just getting thoughts like she s hot etc ..? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): Sorry to hear you are feeling this way! I have been though the same thing at times in my relationships.. This can be triggered by an unstable relationship or times of feeling out of control in ones life. There are many things your husband might be thinking. He may think the girl is trying to hard, insecure. We all look. It is out of our control thaty he might see a pretty girl..would he act on it? If he would than he is not the right man for you. I know a lot of women that are in relationships with loyal men and they could care less if a hot naked women walked by because they have confidnce in the relationship.. I just want to to know this is normal and we all go through times in our lives feeling insecure.. Guys are insecure too..
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Seema, you've asked this question or very similar about five times now. Have you read or heard any of the advice you've been given already?
I think you need to see a professional counselor for your self-esteem issues now.
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reader, shannon222 +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Your husband was probably thinking that she was hott. But, guys always look. Unfortunately, I don't think they can help it. It is just nature for a man to look at other girls. But, I bet if you were wearing that outfit he would look at you like that too. For a man to choose you as the women to live the rest of his life with. Then you are more than a skimpy outfit. As long as you don't feel that he might try anything more than look, then you should be ok.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 There's a very fine line between aesthetic admiration and erotic attraction. Most men can think "this girl lokks good " and imagine her naked in the same flash of thought.
So? no big deal, it's not like they do it on purpose,it's biology. If I were you I would not stress about something so irrelevant.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 the second one, dont worry bout it
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): Come on give your husband a break.....All men like to look even my husband but it's only natural. Can you honestly say that you have never looked at another man before in breaks? There must be more to this to give you a reasons to question the event. Are you feeling insecure about yourself? Has your husband or even you been unfaithful in the past? Do you think your not attractive to your husband anymore? Has the romance stopped? Look at the real reason you asked this question and work it out don't go looking for excuses to accuse him of something that may have been completely innocent. Maybe he was looking at her because she looked weird or she ate funny. Maybe he thought that she should put more clothes on and cover herself. Maybe he was thinking she was must be a part time hooker.
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reader, dancupid  +, writes (24 April 2010):
Erm, sorry to have to break it to you but your husband is a man. Men look at women's bodies.This is a biologically programmed behaviour. Stop worrying about it - it doesn't mean he's going to act on it. I assume that as he's married to you he feels strongly about you and that is what you need to focus on.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (24 April 2010):
Not exactly but it is a man thing. We men assume that every woman out there lusts after us. Sadly that is not true at all, well not for most of us?He was being normal, was it not you that are maybe a little jealous of this hussy. Try being a little more revealing yourself in the future and see his reactions then?Men and women get thoughts about sex every day of their lives until they are called. That is the way we are made!
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