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writes:so ive had a crush on this guy for about 7 months now. He's always asked me to hang out after a party or something but ive always said no in some way. I rejected him a good 3 times. After a month of not talking because we were on spring break and busy with school, we started talking to each other again when we saw each other. One night he finally asked me to come over again, i wanted to hook up with him and thats about it. I didnt wanna have sex but it ended up happening. I am afraid hes not going to be interested anymore. But i want him to be interested and get to know me better and like me. I know i messed up by having sex, i know i shouldnt have. What should i do now? i dont want things to be awkward, and i really want him to like me. But i feel like this is kind of hard to turn around now that i already had sex with him
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reader, Lyshler  +, writes (15 April 2009):
I agree with Samantha,she just give u best advice.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You want him to like you...you keep saying this over and over.
I am confused here, DO YOU LIKE HIM? Or did you just sleep with him for a fun night? Or if you didnt want to have sex, did he rape you?
If you like him, I would recommend pursuing the relationship despite the fact that you had sex. Not despite it, but because of it. It probably makes him like you more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Maybe you could contact him and just spend some time together, suggest doing something together, and not mention anything about the sex. That way, you will be able to get to know each other better and feel more comfortable. If he starts to get all sexual though, you could perhaps explain to him that you'd like to wait, and that you feel you rushed into it the last time. If he is a guy who is going to respect your feelings, he should be understanding about that.If he suddenly doesn't seem interested in you now you've had sex though, then I would suggest just putting this down as a bad experience, and try to move on. If he was only after sex, then he isn't good enough for you anyway. I would try talking to him though, don't avoid him or anything, even though it might feel awkward. He might really like you and want to get to know you better too, and if you avoid him he might start to think that you are not interested in him anymore!I hope this works out okay for you.-Sam x
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You did well to have him hanging on for so long. I dont think by you having sex will turn him off. Its how youact now. If you continue to be hard to get and not living for him, he will find you highly attractive and keep loging for you.
Its good you feel guilty as you do not sound like the easy sort. I feel he is really interested in you - do not have sex for a while until you get to know him and he know you better.
Good luck!
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reader, b.rye +, writes (15 April 2009):
 We live in a fourth dimension: time. Can't stop it, can't rewind it. Dear, there's nothing you can do about it now (it's a Willie Nelson song). You should hope he's a decent guy and if not, well... "Experience is what we get, when we didn't get what we wanted." -Randy Pausch
Good luck.
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