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writes:Is it so wrong for me to tell a man that I hardly know very well that I love him yes I do love him and I cant help it. Life is too short and my friend says take the bull by the horns and let him know then its up to him if he acts on it or not or if he runs of scared in the other direction - then so be it.I have to agree I think I want to tell him regardless of the consequences-why shouldnt I tell him as life is so short none of us know how long we have here especially these days.I realise its a gamble should I take it and to hell with whether he runs or not? I do realise he might run but then its a chance I feel I should take? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 If you hardly know him how do you know you love him?
Get to know him first, become friends, at least make sure he knows your name, is hetero and not married before you confess. Random strangers coming to you confessing their love might be romanctic on valentines day, the rest of the year it is just creepy.
Yes, take the bull by the horns, get to know him but don't go straight for the jugular. Don't put all your cards on the table at once, it puts to much pressure on him and might well end up with him rejecting to you because it is to sudden while you two might develop something if you start hanging out together and move on to dating.
There is a difference between taking the bull by the horns and nuking it from orbit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Try taking it down a notch or two...try by trying to get to know him more, and then down the road, tell him you have developed feelings for him (I probabbly not drop the Love bomb still.) Your right, life is too short, but if you take it someowhat slower, there is less of a chance of scaring this fella off. Good Luck Sweet Pea!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Why don't you do something a little more subtle, like ask him to take you out sometime? Why do you HAVE to tell him you love him? I find that a bit extreme. If you do love him why can't you just SHOW him that you are interested by hanging out with him and showing your interest in other ways.
That's alot of pressure you are putting on him telling him that you love him. I understand you only live once, but even so it doesn't mean you have to be so capricious. You can take the bull by the horns without being so bold to the point of ridiculousness.
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reader, Secret Teller  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 love is very powerful i hope that you have found your power. because you should tell him you love him.
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