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writes:Hi all, so lately my friends have been telling me I should leave my boyfriend.. We've been together for a year and a half.. So this is what happened. We graduated and we had a grad ball for us to celebrate and have a good time. So a day before the ball, he was a bit upset I'm not exactly sure why. But he seemed that way. But on the day of the ball, he seems okay and talked to me as usual. When we were at the ball, we were good the whole time, we were laughing, joking and talking really well. We had dinner and we even took a ton of pictures selfies and funny ones. He even offered that we should go to the photobooth to take some funny ones. But then the dancing began... And so we decided to step out and catch up with some people and take photos.. And there was one point where there was a slow dance.. And well I ASKED, if we could go and have ONE slow dance together and he was hesitant and said no.. And I said pleaseeeeeee.. And he giggled and said okay let's go on.. And so when we stepped into the hall I saw ALL the couples dancing together and I said "dance with me?" And he rejected. I got really like sad and I was on the verge of tears that he didn't want to.. And I was said "everyone's dancing, even the shyest couple is.." And I asked again and he didn't want to and the song ended.. I was about to cry.. I really really wanted a dance with him. Just ONE dance. And when we walked out, he asked me what's wrong and I just said nothing a little too quickly.. And then he got all mad at me or something and ignored me for the rest of the night. I even texted him after the ball and said sorry for overreacting. And I didn't get a reply.. Somehow I'm sensing that he's mad/upset but I'm not exactly sure.. Plus he's leaving for college so maybe he's upset too so he's either trying to push me away or just trying to pick a fight or smtg.. Bottom line is, was I wrong for wanting to share one dance with him? And is it wrong of me to feel upset that he rejected, especially when I asked?What should I do now that he's mad and all? Please help! Thankssss
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2015): I don't think you have anything to worry about. I think he just felt a little awkward doing a slow-dance in-front of everybody. You were all dressed-up, your hair was done, you smelled good, and you looked your best. You probably looked the prettiest he has ever seen you. He's a boy, and things happen to guys that can embarrass them that isn't very easy to talk about to his date. I think you know what I mean.
Some guys just aren't good at slow-dancing without being clumsy or stepping on your feet. Dancing apart is easy; because you don't have to sway with the rhythm of the music, and you can flail your arms around and look like you're dancing even if you don't really know how. He'll get over it. Just don't cry and be a drama-queen about it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 June 2015):
 No it's not wrong to want to SHARE a dance with a BF at a BALL, but it wasn't wrong for him to say no thanks either.
Honestly, instead of tying to manipulate him (with the drama and tears) you should have asked another boy to dance - bet you that would have made him change his mind in a heartbeat. And if he didn't... you still got a dance.
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