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51-59,
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writes:Hi is it okay if you are married , deeply in love with your spouse and still have harmless chats with strangers ? In another country? Telephonic conversations etc . My husband did this stopped before i knew but i came to know later it was not sexual but he chatted every alternate day just for fun he is very apologetic about it is it alright i punished him a lot but for the last month he has not left my side and is very apologetic tell me whether it is okay he says he did it cause he had heard a lot about facebook chat. He has by the way never seen the person . Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Hello,
In my opinion it depends on your relationship. Many people have guys, or girls that are friends and as long as its ok with their partner its fine.
Obviously this bothered you, he also wasn't open in telling you what he was doing. You've stated they were harmless conversations. However if there bothersome to you the proper thing for him to do is not do it.
Good luck
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reader, Christine82  +, writes (17 May 2010):
Ok from personal experience I know how much this has hurt you maybe even angered you. But I don't understand why you call it harmless chats if you are hurting! You have feelings and he's broken trust.
To move on fully you may need to understand from him why he felt the need to do what he did.
Facebook is bad news, that's exactly where my partner found others to chat to while I was nursing his newborn.
I think you feel like you can trust him now but how would you feel if he started using facebook again(if he's stopped)?
Maybe you could tell him that you are happy to forgive and forget as long as he can prove to you that he isn't interested in the other woman by deleting her number and his facebook account
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