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writes:I was having sex for about an hour with my boyfriend last night, in loads of different positions but he just didn't come! At least I don't think he did. He usually moans and he didn't, we just sort of stopped (because I was knackered!). I googled it, and it said if it was too hot it might stop him, and it was really hot in the room.But I feel really bad now, like i'm no good! He never usually has a problem. I was probably imagining things but it seemed a bit awkward after that, and I pretty much went straight home as it was 2am and I had school the next day so couldnt stay over. Is there anything that may have caused this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Yes it is perfectly normal that a guy who totally likes you and totally wants you is not in the mood once in a while. Perhaps he was tired, had a really long day. Maybe he had a lot on his mind, maybe he got yelled by his parents, maybe he had a test coming up, just stressed about something.
He was prob either stressed or really really tired. You musn't take this personally, I guarantee you it had nothing to do with you or how he feels about you. You need to stop being paranoid and be understanding that if a guy is not in the mood for sex every once in a while it has nothing to do with you. You sleep on it, no big deal, next day after he is rested he will be back to normal. So DO NOT bring this up or make a big deal about it. If it becomes a habit (which it isn't) then it becomes a problem. It is not a problem so don't worry.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Most likely he delayed for to long, because longer is "better" but if you do that for to long the penis just becomes desensitized. Think what happened to your vagina after an hour of sex. Pleasure or just soreness?
There is no harm in it (won't cause permanent damage) but coming with a sore penis just isn't worth trying. He probably padded himself on the back for lasting an hour and didn't think that maybe the girl would have settled for shorter but two people enjoying it. With say a repeat after a breather? 3x10 minutes? Half as long but in the end, you two might have more fun.
But that is not what porn attitudes tells us. If you don't need an hour of constant penis stimulation, then it might help to hint to him that longer doesn't always mean better.
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reader, LustyLisa  +, writes (11 November 2010):
Looking at your age and assuming that he's in the same age bracket as you, it's very likely that he's masterbating regularly and if he masterbated earlier in the day or multiple times within a sort period of time, he likely hadn't had time to "reload" so to speak. I wouldn't take it personally. It happens to everyone from time to time. If it becomes a habitual problem during your partnered sessions, you may want to speak up and ask him about his mastabatory habits as well as his alcohol comsumption and whether he's getting enough fluids since they all can cause difficulties with male ejaculation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Temperature can play a factor. I think warm rooms affect my mood in general in a very negative way for some reason. It stresses me out. Its possible certainly and even if it wasnt I doubt it was you doing anything wrong. The goal of sex isnt orgasm remember so if he was enjoying himself, hopefully that makes you happy too.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (11 November 2010):
Hi,
I wouldnt worry why he didnt cum..it could be the heat as you say, or if he masterbates alot (esp before) he may have already cum solo.
Guys can have a "dry" orgasm. so I really wouldnt worry at all. If it was a one off however if it keeps happening, get him to have a check up.
In the mean time have fun!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Stamina is usually what keeps a guy going, dont worry it is nothing to do with you believe me, this is not a problem try not and worry about it, there is plenty of things a guy can do to prolong coming so that they last extra long for there girlfriends it could be possible he was practicing some of these trying to make it longer for you. Never the less dont worry abou it, he probably just got exhausted and thats why he gave up before he came, if it is anoying you just ask him.
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