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writes:So tomorrow I'm meeting this guy I've been talking to for a month, we text daily, talk on the phone daily, usually before bed, and we seem to get along well. I haven't met him in person yet, (tomorrow we are meeting) but so far we get along great! Here's the issue...Saturday night I'm going to a Halloween party and this guy who I've liked and go to school with for months said he had nothing to do for Halloween so I invited him to this party. This guy probably only likes me as a friend, but was that okay for me to invite him to a party with me when the night before I'm meeting the other guy? My guy friend doesn't know anyone at the party except me so I'm guessing he might like me because its out of his character to go anywhere where he wouldn't know anyone. He isn't that outgoing like that. I know I'm going off a lot of "what ifs" here but its mostly a gut feeling that my guy friend finally might like me and right when I'm starting to talk to this other guy who weirdly enough, got pretty close to, even if we haven't met in person yet. I don't know if anyone can relate to that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Sometimes we just cant help how we feel you need to tell him now though so that he knows just say to him you had a great time with him and he is a great bloke but that you would rather just be friends at the moment, ensure him that it is nothing to do with him just at the moment you would like to have him in your life as a friend.
As for the other guy i understand what you mean that you dont want to tell him how you feel as it would be awkward in class if he didnt return those feelings instead of telling him just try and hang out with him more and maybe ask him if he would like to go on a night out or to the cinema ect and just get to know him more.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (1 November 2010):
LLindy87 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice aunt honesty, I did end up meeting him on friday and we had a good time, but I felt like I was hanging out with a good friend instead of someone I should be interested in...unfortunately :( It is kind of a let down and now I don't know how to break it to him without sounding shallow, but its nothing to do with his looks, its more about how him and I interacted...like we were buddies more so then more then friends.
now the other guy didn't end up going to that party but I do have feelings for him but decided not to do anything about it because I have to go to classes with him and I don't want to make anything awkward if he doesn't feel the same.
...I just don't know how to tell the online guy that I didn't feel the spark. He said he had a great time and said that I was more then he expected me to be, and seems to be still liking me. I don't know what changed :/
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (29 October 2010):
Ok well just remember here that it is perfectly ok for you to do both you are not in a relationship with anyone there fore you are not doing anything wrong sometimes it is good to keep our options open so dont be worrying.
However make sure this doesnt turn in to a nasty love triangle between the three of you. Meet up with the guy you have been talking to but make sure that it is in a public place as some people arent what they appear to be on the internet, besides that just enjoy your day and see how you both get on with each other face to face.
As for your friend do you have any feelings for him? Again just go to the party and enjoy yourself as friends after you have enjoyed these two days out just take things slowly and hopefully you will know which guy you would like to be with and then if the other one is interested in you just let him down gently and tell him you want to remain friends.
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