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writes: I've never had a bf so I'm pretty clueless about everything. My crush has never has a gf so he is also lost when it comes to dating. I've liked him for a little over a year and in the beginning I told him I liked him but the feeling wasn't mutual because he liked someone else. But we have gotten really close over the last few months and I think since he has stuck around our friendship has changed a lot and we have gotten really close. And he may be flirting but I'm not sure because no one has ever flirted with me before so he is probably just being nice.So today I went to lunch with my crush. First he drove to my house to pick me up. When I got outside he got out of the car to open my door for me (it was locked and he was all embarrassed but it was a cute gesture hahaha). On the way to the restaurant he showed me that he brought a bunch if his CDs for me to borrow. We went to subway for lunch where he paid for me, and we talked the whole time. After we ate he was going to take me back to his house to show me something I was asking him about recently, but his parents were home and he didn't wanna get yelled at for bringing a friend home before he did his chores so he took me home lol. On the way home I said we should go to a movie or something. He said he couldn't because obviously he had to do his chores, but he said that him and his friend who I know are going to the movies on Friday and if I want I could go too. So was this lunch just hanging out or was it a date. I'm so confused and I have never had a guy show interest in me so I don't know what signs to look for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI completely understand what you're saying. A lot has been happening recently and I'm already stressed and angry, so I'm not really reacting to things the way I would like to. I definitely don't think he meant to cancel, but it is still bothering me because of all of my other stress piling up. I'll just kinda wait it out and see where things go without rushing (even though I've already been waiting a year and a half for something to happen haha).
And the reason I said I was terrified is because as I said before, I've never been in a relationship so knowing that there is a possibility that someone likes me is really strange for me to process. I suppose I have to get used to it eventually though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2015): It's always a good idea to be patient and relaxed about someone you like. There is no reason to be terrified. He has shown interest by taking you out to lunch; just because the movie fell-through; don't take that to mean anything. His parents' anniversary celebration is something that he has no control over, and you know how they expect their kids to celebrate it with them. Unless they plan something intimate.
Don't be nervous, he likes you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh gosh this is terrifying! I'm okay if it takes a while for anything to be official since both of us are kinda just making it up as we go anyway haha.
The movie didn't happen. He said he might not go because his parents were celebrating their anniversary, but when I asked how the anniversary was he just said that they switched the day they were going to celebrate without even mentioning the fact that we never went to the movie.
I don't think he intentionally ditched new though. I hope.
I'm glad that someone who wasn't a friend was able to tell me this because it gets discouraging to have my friends tell me that someone likes me but website like this tell me that they don't. Thanks for thanking the time to answer :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2015): Lunch was surely a date. He was also polite by opening the car door for you. He wanted to share his music with you...that is a huge plus!!! My dear, you are dating!
Don't be in a rush for him to say you're his girlfriend. I think he needs some time to see how he feels about you first.
He is respectful of his parents, he does his chores (so he's responsible), and he invited you to go to the movies. That will also be a date. Take your own money, just in-case. If he offers to pay, another big plus!!!
I am pretty sure this boy likes you, and you seem to have good taste. Just be comfortable and relax, all you have to do is be your sweet self. Let nature take its course, by allowing him to feel comfortable enough to show you by his actions how he feels about you. The words will mean more when you see it in his actions.
I'm very happy for you!
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