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writes:hiya everyone, feeling troubled at the moment. I'm fourteen and have fallen in love with a seventeen year old who lives on the same street as me, one day he came over and we started kissing (we've been friends for months) and it got quite intense and we were getting close to going the whole way, I stopped him beacause I didnt want to lose "it" to him. He felt bad and left in a hurry. That was four days ago and we haven't spoken since. Whilst on facebook talking to one of my friends who he lives with, she told me that he didn't feel comfortable around me and only came round because he apparently wanted to bluetooth me some songs. I wanted to know if I was in the wrong to stop him and me going the whole way and if there is anything I can do to get him to speak to me again?
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reader, Georgia13  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 You definitely didn't do anything wrong, its your body and your choice. You should talk to him about it for sure.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 November 2010):
 No you did what was right for you. Keep having trust in your own instincts. Being able to say no, is never a bad thing.
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reader, Odds +, writes (2 November 2010):
 You're not wrong to stop him. You made the right decision, long-term, for your happiness, and it's good that you were able to respect yourself enough to stop him when things got uncomfortable.
However, just because you did the right thing does not make everything sunshine and roses. If he was looking for sex, and did not get it, he might decide not to date you anymore. You have to accept that as a possibility, and be at peace with it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be. Again, for your long-term happiness, holding on to your virginity for a while would probably be best.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 November 2010):
 No! It wasn't wrong of you to stop him..You're not ready, not to mention you're still a minor when he is of age for legal consent.
Ah, he came over to bluetooth some songs now did he? Looks like all he got was kissing and feeling you up accomplished. He left quickly because you weren't going to give him what he initially came over for, and I'm not talking about songs. Honestly, I wouldn't speak to him again, he's way too forward and I'm sure another situation like that will arise again or he'll pressure you into going all the way. You can try to talk to him, but I wouldn't until he apologizes for being too forward.
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